LOVE is without doubt the greatest gift of the Divine. LOVE is truly Divine. In fact, LOVE IS DIVINE. The divine is nothing but a source of pure love. It represents love of the highest form: Unconditional Love. The divine is not only a source of pure unconditional love, the divine also showers unconditional love towards all of its creations.

Many of us have a very vague idea of what unconditional love truly is. The reason is simple. Society never gave any importance to the term unconditional. All that we read, heard, saw and felt was just love. When two good friends become sore enemies, the love which once existed between them often miraculously disappears, simply because of the subconscious agreement based on conditions such as “this friendship is valid if and only if ….. and if and only if….. and if and only if…. If any of these conditions are not met, then….we’ll see about it.”

Love will always be a weakness as long as it is conditional. Very often, you will hear the phrase “Love Hurts” in songs, movies and conversations alike. This Love, which hurts, is Conditional Love. In a loving relationship, when something, which happens, contradicts your expectations and preconceived thoughts, you experience a state of shock and disbelief. Hidden underneath this layer is subdued anger (which will be almost always completely transparent). The result of this anger will be depression. (Depression is always the result of anger). Here anger results because reality contradicted your idealistic thoughts. You directly experienced what you thought was impossible. The idealistic thoughts somehow became conditions that supported your relationship. When those conditions failed, your emotions were crippled. And you blamed it all on Love. Nonetheless, realize that Love CANNOT hurt, because love is divine. If you feel and experience pain in a loving relationship, then it simply means that there is a dose of conditional attachment and judgment present in your relationship.

I must however add the very important qualifier that the pain which results when two people separate cannot always be attributed to judgment or conditions. This pain results because a connection is broken. Imagine a cord, something like an umbilical cord, connecting you to your partner. Now imagine a pair of scissors cutting that cord. That is the reason for the pain. We all have great attachments to those whom we dearly love, and that is why we experience pain upon separation. If there is no attachment, there would be minimal or no pain at all. But then again, is there such a thing as deep love with non-attachment? Indeed there is such a thing. However, it is extremely difficult to find a person who exhibits this type of love.

These are your extremely rare Masters who would feel no pain at all upon separation, not that they do not care or love their partner. These are people who have achieved mastery over attachment. As long as there is attachment, there is a possibility of separation. And separation results in pain. However, once you realize that in truth everything in the cosmos is interconnected, you realize that there is no such thing as separation. You will always have the inner-self connection to your partner.

The question here is not of mastery over attachment, which is indeed an extremely difficult feat to achieve. Rather it is about the speed at which you are able to heal your wounds after separation. The faster you are able to do that, the more stable and normal your life will become once again.

History has shown that romantic love has always ended in a tragedy as long as it was based on judgment, attachment, control, fear and conditions. It is only natural for someone involved in a relationship to fear the loss of his/her beloved and to manipulate situations, in good intent of course, that the relationship does not end. Control and manipulation in a romantic relationship clearly shows how shallow one’s love can be. Love is a wonderful energy that reveals its true power only when it is not manipulated and allowed to flow freely. No person can solely claim that Love is just his/hers. Once we start to take things into our hands and control a situation in the hope of keeping our Beloved, things can only get worse. Solution: Release Control!

If you unconditionally love a man/woman
Then set him/her free
If he/she comes back
He/She was always yours
If he/she doesn't
Then it's time you opened your eyes wider!

It is a universal law that love always returns to the sender, in amounts much greater than that which was sent out by the sender. Therefore, if you still cannot see that love, it may just be that you do not want to see it at all!

If you truly love someone very, very, much, then you are lying if you try to bind that person in a permanent relationship with you against his/her freewill. To love truly romantically, is to love truly unconditionally. This is what unconditional love means to me:

“Beloved, I love you very, very, much, and I want to continue loving you just like that.

I respect and honor all your decisions and actions because I respect and honor your freewill. I know that at times, I really wanted you to do one thing and you did the other. But Beloved, I do not force you to listen to me because I respect your choice. You have all the right to make your own decisions in life and I will completely honor and respect those decisions of yours.

Even if your decisions prove to be painful and traumatic to me, I will not judge you and still respect and honor them, because Beloved, if I say that I love you, then I love all aspects of you, which includes your freewill to make your own decisions.

Beloved, it does not matter if you love me just as much as I love you, or not at all or even if you hate me. You never signed a contract to love me. 

And even if you decide not to be together with me, my love will still and always be with you. I never made any conditions that I will only love you as long as love is reciprocal. And Beloved, you cannot stop me from loving you either. Just as the Sun always showers its wonderful rays of light upon every single creation of the Divine, every single day, without fail, it is my Birthright to love. And no one can steal that birthright away from me. Not even you Beloved. Not even you…”

But of course, my Beloved will never steal that birthright away from me. Because my Beloved Inner-Self loves me more than I can imagine, and it loves me more than anyone else.

The Power and Glory of Love is truly experienced only when Love becomes Unconditional.

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