The
Art of SpeedReading People: Harness the Power of Personality Type and
Create What You Want in Business
by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger
CHAPTER ONE
The
Principles of Personality Type:
Why We Do the Things We Do
People come in all shapes and
sizes, and, certainly, every person is unique. But you'll probably agree
that some people are much more alike than others. And behavior that may
seem random is, in fact, quite understandable and often even predictable,
once you understand that person's inborn, natural personality, or genetic
blueprint, if you will, which describes basic psychological
characteristics. And one's personality is by far the best and most
reliable predictor of behavior.
There are a whole host of factors that
influence behavior: genes, upbringing, innate talents and abilities,
cultural background, time period, and location, as well as the specifics
of a particular situation. Human beings have a huge repertoire of
behaviors. We all act differently during a job interview than we do at a
rock concert. We behave differently when socializing with our families
than we do with our closest friends. That's because the situation calls
for different behavior. But that doesn't mean our personality
changes with each new situation we encounter. To the contrary, as human
beings we approach most situations with a set of automatic responses,
acting in ways in which we are most comfortable. Evidence of this abounds
and is easily seen when we consider that most people's personalities are
quite consistent. For example, let's say you have a friend, Ed, whom
everyone describes as responsible and hardworking and whose demeanor is
almost always pretty serious. He may occasionally lighten up and deviate
from that style for example, at his brother's wedding reception, when he
was dancing in a conga line.
But for the most part, he acts true to his
conservative character because that's who he is. In fact, if he were
serious and careful one day, and the next he was turning back flips in the
office, you'd probably have good reason to worry something might be wrong
with him! Perhaps you have another friend, relative, or coworker who is
very different from the fellow just described. She is, instead,
perpetually lighthearted, loves to laugh and enjoy herself, and almost
seems immune to the everyday pressures and worries that plague most of us.
It is unlikely that she is merely acting that way. She probably is more
naturally carefree and easygoing than serious, steady Ed. And while,
undoubtedly, some of every person's behavior is learned—from parents,
siblings, and teachers—a greater portion of it is the natural
manifestation of his or her inborn personality.
While there are many different models of
behavior—a fancy phrase for saying ways of understanding people—we
have found Personality Type to be the most insightful and useful. One
reason is that it so accurately identifies key characteristics of
personality that are present in all people. Personality Type is also
useful because it describes behavior in positive, nonjudgmental terms.
This is not an approach that says it is better to be one way or another,
nor that it is better to be one type than another. But it helps us to
recognize, and very clearly identify, our natural strengths and potential
weaknesses. And by allowing us to understand the ways we are alike and
different, it helps us not only to value our differences, but to celebrate
them as well.
Before you begin an introduction to
Personality Type, it might be helpful for you to know a bit about its
history. The basic ideas behind Type are not new. In fact, they were first
written about by Swiss psychologist Carl Jung more than seventy years ago.
But it was two American women, Katharine Briggs and her daughter, Isabel
Myers, who were really responsible for building on, including developing
the fourth type dimension, and making these ideas useful in practical ways
to so many people. One of Isabel's major contributions to our
understanding of human behavior was the development of a psychological
instrument that reliably identifies sixteen distinctly different types.
She named this the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)®, and over the past
several years, millions of people around the world have been introduced to
the benefits of knowing about Personality Type through the MBTI®, It is
routinely used in business to help managers motivate employees, develop
more-productive work teams, and enhance communication. It is also heavily
used by counselors and therapists to help individuals, couples, and
families understand and communicate better with each other. Hundreds of
thousands of people have found Personality Type invaluable in helping them
make satisfying career choices. And these are only some of its many
applications!
THE BIG PICTURE: AN OVERVIEW OF
PERSONALITY TYPE
There are four components, or
"dimensions," that make up a personality type. They are: how
people are energized, what kind of information they naturally notice and
remember, how they make decisions, and how they like to organize the world
around them. As you can see, each of these dimensions deals with an
important aspect of life, which is why Type provides such accurate
insights into our own, and others', behavior. It helps to picture each of
these four dimensions as a scale—a continuum between two opposite
extremes—like this:
You will notice there is a midpoint in the
center of each scale. This is important because everyone has an inborn,
natural preference for one side or the other on each of these dimensions.
Some people resist the notion that they
have to fall on one side or the other, insisting that they are able to use
either side, depending on the situation. And while it is true that all of
us use both sides of each dimension hundreds of times a day, we do not use
them with equal frequency, energy, or success. A simple exercise will help
you understand this concept. First, find a pen or pencil and a piece of
paper—any scrap will do—you can even use the margin of this book. Now
simply write your signature. How did that feel? . Pretty easy, we would
guess. Okay, now write your signature again, only this time with your pen
or pencil in your opposite hand! How did that feel? If you're like
most people, you would use words like "awkward,"
"difficult," "uncomfortable," and
"unnatural" to describe the second experience. Also, it probably
took more time and energy, and the product wasn't nearly as good.
When you are using your preferred side on
any of the four type dimensions—like using your preferred hand—you are
doing what comes naturally. And when you are required to use the opposite
side, it takes a lot of extra work and you're not as good at it; hence,
the experience is usually not as satisfying.
You might ask: "Isn't it possible to
be both, say, an Introvert and an Extravert?" The answer is no. But
just as we can and do use our less preferred hand, we also use our other
side on each type dimension, at times. Another way to think of it is that
everyone is primarily one way or the other, but not exclusively
that way. Those of us who have been studying and using Type for dozens of
years have little doubt that every person really does have a natural,
inborn preference for one side over the other, although in some people it
is quite strong and apparent, while in others it is less strong and may be
harder to identify.
Because there are four type dimensions, and
each person has one preference per dimension, there are sixteen different
possible type combinations. A personality type is really a four-letter
code that reflects a person's preferences on each of the four dimensions.
For example, a person can be an ISTP (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking,
Perceiving) type, or an ENFJ (Extraverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging)
type, or one of fourteen other type combinations.
It is helpful to spend a few moments
talking about some of the language used to describe Type. For example,
when we refer to a preference, we're not talking about a conscious choice,
but rather an inborn tendency. We can't choose to be an Extravert, for
example, any more than we can choose to be born right-handed or have blue
eyes. Nor can we change any of our type preferences. We are born with a
type and we remain that type our whole lives. While some people don't
particularly like this idea, it is not bad news. For as we said before, it
is not better or worse to have one preference over another. Nor is any one
type better or worse, smarter or duller than another. Rather, each type
has natural strengths and potential weaknesses, due to its tendencies and
inclinations. And although every individual is unique, because they have
their own genes, parents, and life experiences, people of the same type
share a remarkable amount in common.
Over the years, it has been pointed out
that the language used to describe type preferences can sometimes create
an unwanted distraction, because most of us have heard words like
"Extravert" and "Introvert" and associate them with a
meaning that is not the same when they are used to refer to Personality
Type. For example, many people think of Introverts as being shy and
withdrawn, and Extraverts as gregarious and talkative. This description is
neither adequate, since there is so much more to this dimension than just
the amount of social interaction people desire, nor accurate, since there
are some very shy Extraverts and some very outgoing Introverts. These
distinctions will be clarified when we discuss each type preference in
depth, in the following section. But for the time being, try to let go, as
best you can, of any preconceived notions you may have as to the meanings
of these words.
FIGURING OUT YOUR TYPE PREFERENCES
"To know others, you must first
know yourself." This old expression is particularly true with regard
to learning about Type. Therefore, your first objective is to understand
the Type concepts well enough to be able to accurately identify your own
type. Look at reading this book as a series of learning adventures. And
while it is important for you
To get the fundamentals down, like millions
of others you'll find reading, thinking about, and discussing Type with
others to be interesting and fun.
In a moment you will begin to read about
the four type dimensions, in an effort to determine which preferences fit
you best. To help you decide, we've posed several questions that reflect
the differences between opposite sides. Most of what you read about your
preference will ring true for you, but in order to clearly make the
distinctions, the preferences are presented as generalities, which really
represent extremes. Try not to focus on any one specific example of each
preference, but rather on a pattern of behavior that is more consistently
like you than its opposite. Even if one example sounds just like you, see
how all the others fit before making up your mind.
THE FOUR TYPE DIMENSIONS
Extravert or Introvert: The "Inner
World" or the "Outer World"?
The first type dimension is concerned
with the two different ways people orient themselves to life, either as Extraverts
or Introverts. Contrary to what most people may think when they
hear the words "Extravert" and "Introvert," this first
type dimension is really most concerned about people's energy—where they
get it and where they direct it.
Many behaviors are influenced by a person's
preference for one or the other; two of the most helpful questions to
determine whether you are an Introvert or an Extravert are:
What energizes me most—Interacting
with other people or being by myself? Where do I like to focus my
energy—in the outer world of people and things or in the inner world of
ideas and thoughts?
Extraverts are "other
centered." By this we mean they both get energy from and focus their
energy toward people and things outside of themselves. Think of Extraverts
as possessing a sort of radar that they turn outward to constantly scan
their environment. The more blips on the screen (the more interactions),
the more energized they become. But Introverts are really more "self
centered." This does not mean they are selfish; rather they are more
self-contained and self-reliant. Introverts tune their radar to an
internal frequency because they are more interested in applying their own
perceptions and experience to a situation rather than looking outside
themselves for the answer. Extraverts naturally (and unconsciously) ask
themselves: "How do I relate to other people and things?" While
Introverts (again, unconsciously) ask themselves: "How do people or
things relate to me?"
Because Extraverts are energized by being
around people, they naturally seek out others more often than Introverts
do, which accounts for why Extraverts typically have huge collections of
friends and associates.
Two very clear Extraverts, Chas and Elaine,
offer a good example of this phenomenon. Friends who often socialize
together, Chas and Elaine have a running competition: who knows more
people? Whenever they're out together, the game kicks into high gear
when one of them recognizes someone that the other doesn't know.
Instantly, the other starts scanning until he or she "gets one,
'that is, locates someone not known to the other. While they obviously
enjoy this game, their friends are constantly amazed at just how many
people, individually and collectively, these two actually do know.
While Extraverts like to focus their
attention on what is happening in the world around them, most Introverts
prefer to immerse themselves totally in a project that interests them.
Naturally independent, they find the solitude of working alone and
thinking things through carefully both stimulating and refreshing. This
concentrated single-mindedness can even make them oblivious to what is
happening around them.
Shawn is a case in point. A very clear
Introvert, Shawn loves nothing better than fooling around with
computers. As he often does, one night he sat down to his computer to
figure out a particular program. The next time he got out of his chair,
he was surprised to learn it was 7:00 A.M. He had been so engrossed in
his work that he had been sitting at the computer for eight hours
straight.
By contrast, Extraverts are notorious for
finding excuses not to focus on one thing because they are much more
interested in and energized by a variety of external stimulation.
Throughout college, Tammy preferred to study
at the library. While initially impressed to learn their daughter was
spending so much time there, her parents were not really surprised when
she revealed her true motivation. Sure, she got her work done, but she
chose the library so she would be around other people and not have to
work alone In the library, she often ran into lots of her friends, and
she took frequent bathroom and social coffee breaks. Like most
Extraverts, especially younger ones, Tammy found just being in the same
room with other people was more comfortable than being by herself.
Another example of the different needs
Extraverts and Introverts have for interaction and concentration can often
be seen in their work styles. For example, Extraverts are much more likely
to keep their office door open so they can see what's going on and not
miss any of the action. And most Extraverts embrace the concept of
managing by walking around. On the other hand, Introverts are more likely
to keep their door closed so they won't be distracted or encourage
unwanted interruptions. They prefer fewer, more substantive interactions.
And their management style, like everything else about them, is more
thoughtful, contemplative, and deliberate.
Which do I prefer more—to be around
others or to spend time by myself?
A popular advertising campaign encouraged
telephone customers to "reach out and touch someone." While
Extraverts don't really need prodding, a common complaint among Extraverts
is that their Introverted friends seldom initiate contact.
Anna and Susan have been close friends for
over twenty-five years—since they met at college. But nine times out
of ten, it will be Extraverted Anna who calls Introverted Susan to catch
up on news, or to try and get together. lt. has taken Anna many years to
finally understand that Susan's lack of initiating contact doesn't mean
she doesn't care about her friend. In fact, when the two women are
together, Susan is a very attentive and concerned friend. But since her
own life is so self-contained, it seldom occurs to her to seek the
company of others, even those she cares deeply about.
A car battery serves as a good metaphor
when describing the different amount of interaction preferred by
Extraverts and Introverts. With Extraverts, it's as if their batteries get
charged up by being around people, while with Introverts, their batteries
are often drained by too much or sustained interaction, and they need time
alone to recharge. The fact is, an activity that will energize an
Extravert will probably have just the opposite effect on an Introvert. A
very common scenario: a couple, one Introvert and one Extravert, are
invited to a party. Quite "naturally," the Extravert is eager to
attend, anticipating all the people he will be interacting with. The
Introvert, on the other hand, would prefer to stay at home, or spend the
evening together or perhaps with just with a few close friends.
And lest you think this is gender
based—you know, a male/female thing—there is no difference in the
percentages of men and women who are either Extraverts or Introverts. In
other words, it is the preference for one or the other that influences
behavior, rather than the gender of the individual.
As with all of the type preferences, people
with one preference often find it hard to understand and appreciate people
of another. Most Extraverts have such a strong need to be around others,
they have a hard time believing Introverts really do like spending that
much time alone. Consequently, Extraverts are notorious for trying to get
their Introverted friends, coworkers, spouses, or children involved in
activities they would rather avoid. Which makes us think Introverts must
often feel like the old woman whom the well-intentioned Boy Scout kept
trying to help across the street. The only problem was, she just didn't
want to go!
It's not always possible to look to your
work to determine your type, because many people's work is not well suited
to their preferences. Frequently, Extraverts end up doing jobs better
suited to Introverts and vice versa. If you are an Introvert, imagine what
it would feel like to work as a tour guide or receptionist, where all day,
each day, your job required you to meet and greet dozens of strangers,
engage them in small talk, and make them feel comfortable. Now for you
Extraverts, imagine a job as a researcher, working on one project for
weeks at a time, completely alone, without the infusion of energy you get
from interacting with other people, or talking about different projects.
Neither is a bad job, but both are potential prescriptions for frustration
and burnout if held by people not naturally suited to them.
Looking back at your childhood can
sometimes help you determine your true type preference. Even as very young
children, one's preference for either Extraversion or Introversion is
often quite obvious. Typically, Extraverted children jump into new social
situations with wild abandon, while Introverted children tend to study the
activity from the sidelines before (and if) they decide to get involved.
Predictably, Extraverts surround themselves with lots of friends, join
many activities and clubs, and enjoy being at the center of the action.
Introverts tend to have one or two best friends whom they keep for a long
time, and are happiest working behind the scenes, rather than in the
spotlight.
"Never talk to strangers" is an
admonition Introverted children are much more likely to follow than
Extraverted ones. And more than one Introverted child has been embarrassed
by an Extraverted parent who is quick to strike up a conversation with
anyone, anytime, and under almost any circumstances. Although men usually
get a bad rap for being too sure of themselves to stop and ask for
directions when they are lost, it is an Extravert/lntrovert issue more
than it is a male/ female one. In other words, Extraverts are more likely
to stop and ask a stranger for directions than are Introverts, regardless
of their gender.
Would I rather work on several projects
at the same time or focus my attention on one task at a time?
We are often reminded of the many
contributions that are made to the world by people of different type
preferences. The gift of Extraversion is breadth, for by their nature
Extraverts prefer to know a little about a lot of things. This makes them
well equipped to fill the role of life's generalists. For clearly, we need
people who are so tuned into what is happening around them that they can
see things coming, and respond quickly to them. In contrast, the gift of
Introversion is depth, for by their nature Introverts are interested in
fewer subjects, but study them in much greater depth. They are life's
specialists. And likewise, we need people who are willing and able to
consider issues thoroughly, deferring action until it is appropriate. But
this difference in outlook and emphasis is profound, and would be quite
obvious were you to eavesdrop on the conversations of two Extraverts
talking to each other and two Introverts doing the same. The Extraverts
are likely to hit on several topics, bouncing from issue to issue, like
the steel ball in a pinball machine. Each person freely offers many
observations but doesn't explore any one issue in great depth. Two
Introverts talking are more likely to spend time discussing fewer issues
but considering the other's points thoughtfully and in much greater depth.
(And depending on whether you are an Extravert or an Introvert, you would
find one conversation infinitely more interesting than the other.)
Am I more comfortable acting first, then
thinking about it or thinking things through before I act on them?
Extraverts and Introverts often have
very different work styles. Typically Extraverts prefer to work at a rapid
pace, moving quickly from one task to another. They are driven by action.
Given their druthers, Introverts would rather work at a slower, steadier
pace, carefully thinking through how they will do the job before they
begin, and then taking time to assess their progress as the project
unfolds. The popular expression "Measure twice, cut once" might
well be the Introverted carpenter's mantra.
Many years ago, our friend Mary McCaulley
explained a classic distinction between Extraverts and Introverts. She
said: "If you don't know what an Extravert is thinking, you haven't
been listen' ing, because he'll tell you. On the other hand, if you don't
know what an Introvert is thinking, you haven't asked." And we would
add: ". . . or waited long enough for the answer." If someone
were so inclined, he could actually measure the difference in the number
of words spoken by Extraverts and Introverts. And the reason for the great
disparity is simple. Extraverts think out loud; in fact, Extraverts often
need to talk in order to think. Introverts, on the other hand, think
inside their heads. Much like a cake that is baked, then presented to the
world after it is finished, Introverts "bake" their ideas inside
their heads. Then, when they are well thought out and ready, they share
them with others. In contrast, Extraverts only partially "bake"
their ideas inside, preferring to finish them out in the world. (This, of
course, occasionally results in the presentation of some pretty half-baked
ideas!)
Although Introverts don't usually speak
nearly as much as their Extraverted counterparts, what they may lack in
quantity is more than made up in quality. Perhaps you've been to meetings
where a few people (normally the very Extraverted ones) dominate the
conversation. Then someone will ask for the opinion of someone who's said
very little up until then. Often, the reaction is like the old television
commercial in which a room buzzing with conversation suddenly becomes
stone quiet as people crane their necks to hear the wise stockbroker's
recommendation. This demonstrates quite well the fact that because
Introverts do their editing inside their heads, what emerges is often a
very good finished product. With Extraverts, you actually witness and hear
the editing process as it occurs.
Am I more of a "public person"
or more of a "private person"?
If you haven't yet determined whether
you are an Extravert or an Introvert, this last question may help you
decide. While history is full of Introverts who have played very public
roles—including many world leaders—Extraverts are normally much more
comfortable occupying the spotlight and sharing their lives with the
public. This is certainly not to imply that all Extraverts enjoy public
speaking. The real question is how comfortable are you with letting people
really get to know you? A common complaint among Extraverts of Introverts
is that they are secretive, withholding, and difficult to get to know. In
fact, Introverts value their privacy so much that they usually only allow
those closest to them to really get to know them. While this may be hard
for Extraverts to understand, it is because Introverts are naturally more
selective than Extraverts. By this we mean that Extraverts welcome all
kinds of external stimulation and often feel the more the better. What
doesn't interest them, they simply disregard. But because Introverts are
so much more selective, they tend to be comfortable allowing only a
certain amount of external stimulation in. They simply screen out the
information or stimulation that doesn't apply to something that interests
them. Whereas Extraverts tend to share more of themselves with the outside
world, Introverts keep more to themselves. Introverts therefore have a
lower tolerance for the invasion of external stimulation—whether it's
from information, sensations, or people.
Although there is some controversy as to
how many Extraverts and Introverts there are in the world, the latest
research suggests that the American population is about equally divided
between Extraverts and Introverts. However, because Extraverts tend to
talk more and louder than Introverts, there seems to be a strong bias
toward Extraverts in our culture.
At this point you should have a fairly good
idea of whether you are an Extravert or an Introvert. You may be very
confident about it, or you may still have some doubts. This is perfectly
normal. And if you aren't yet able to determine your preference on this
dimension with certainty, you will have many other opportunities later in
the book.
Below you will find a scale showing the
Extravert/Introvert continuum. Please place a check mark at the point that
most accurately reflects where you fall. The closer your mark is to the
center of the continuum, the less clear your preference; the farther away
from the center, the stronger you think it is. Even if you're not sure
which side you belong on, try to indicate which side you probably
fall on, even if it is just over the line. This requires an honest
evaluation, for you are trying to determine which is the way you are, not
the way you might want to be or think you should be. And remember, what is
most helpful in determining your type is which side of each scale you
prefer, not the strength of your preference.
One down, and three to go! Next we'll
explore the second type dimension: Sensing and Intuition.
Sensor or Intuitive: The Forest or the
Trees?
The second type dimension describes the
two different ways people perceive, or take in, information. The words we
use to describe people who have these two opposite preferences are Sensors
and Intuitives. Each of us continuously takes in millions (perhaps
billions) of pieces of information every day, the great majority of which
are processed unconsciously. Some people take in this information
primarily through their five senses—what they see, hear, touch, taste,
or smell—hence the name Sensors. Others take in information through
their sixth sense, focusing not on what is, but rather on what could be.
We use the word Intuitives to describe these people. Remember that no one
is a pure Sensor or Intuitive any more than a person is a pure Extravert
or Introvert. Each of us has the ability to use both Sensing and
Intuition, and all of us do use both every day. But we have a natural,
inborn preference for one over the other.
Below are several questions to ask yourself
to determine whether you are a Sensor or an Intuitive.
Do I usually pay more attention to the
facts and details or do I try to understand the connections, underlying
meaning, and implications?
Sensors see the trees, while Intuitives
see the forest. By this we mean that Sensors naturally pay attention to
what they are experiencing at the moment. Handed a flower and asked to
tell you about it, the Sensor will note how vivid the colors are, the
smooth texture of the leaves, the delicate fragrance, and how light and
fragile it is—in other words, what her three senses tell her about the
flower. Hand the same flower to an Intuitive and ask her to tell you about
it, and you are likely to hear something more like: "This reminds me
of my grandmother. She used to have these growing in her yard, and when
we'd visit each summer, we'd pick them to put on the table for family
meals." You'll notice that the Intuitive perceived the flower in a
very different way than the Sensor. Instead on focusing on what is, she
immediately focused on her connection to the flower, and her associations
with it.
Here's another metaphor that can help
demonstrate how different the focus is for Sensors and Intuitives. Imagine
a photographer taking a picture with a single-lens reflex camera (the kind
of camera that you focus by turning the ring on the lens). The
photographer is shooting a person who is standing in front of a huge
panoramic view of a mountain range. With Sensors, it's as if they turn the
lens until the person in the foreground (the detail) is in sharp focus,
while the view behind (the big picture) is blurry. With Intuitives, it's
just the opposite: they turn the lens so that the view (the big picture)
behind the person is in focus, but the person in the foreground (the
detail) is blurry and out of focus.
Arnie, a very clear Intuitive, learned just
how attentive to details Sensors are when his apartment got robbed.
Fortunately, he was away at the time and discovered the intrusion upon
returning home. When the police arrived, they gave a cursory look around
the kitchen first and asked him: "Was that drawer open when you
left the house?" So inattentive to details was Arnie that he was
embarrassed to admit he had never even noticed there was a drawer where
the officer was pointing!
While Sensors tend to think in a linear
fashion, one thought following the next, Intuitives frequently engage in
intuitive leaps in thinking.
Jessica and lan were driving in their car
one afternoon' when she happened to notice and point out an
exceptionally beautiful tree they were passing. After only a few seconds
of looking at the tree, lan turned to Jessica and said: "You know,
I'm really ticked off at Jimmy." Now Jessica and lan had been
together long enough for her to understand the way his mind worked, and
to often be able to track the origin of his many intuitive connections.
But she was at a total loss this time. "Okay, explain how you got
from seeing that tree to being mad at Jimmy [one of lan's oldest
childhood friends]." lan explained: "When we were growing up,
Jimmy had a tree house in a tree that looked a lot like that one. As
soon as I saw it, it reminded me of him and the fact that he hasn't
called me in two months. So that's why I'm mad at Jimmy."
These fundamental differences also may be
seen early on in children. While one child has memorized every one of his
favorite baseball player's stats, and can reel them off with impressive
accuracy, his brother can't remember where he left his sneakers five
minutes after he took them off.
Am I a more down-to-earth and sensible
person or an imaginative and creative one?
It bears repeating that it is not
better to have one preference over another. However, there are definitely
gifts that are unique to each. Intuitives are often (but not always)
creative; able to see possibilities and alternatives that aren't
immediately apparent. Typically, they have rich imaginations, which they
use to engage in fantasies of all kinds.
By this, we do not mean to imply that only
Intuitives possess creativity, for this is certainly not the case.
Creativity, like intelligence, takes many forms. But the ways that
Intuitives express their creativity seem to be in seeing or doing things
differently from the way they've been seen or done before. Sensors more
often demonstrate their creativity by finding a new application for
something that has already been invented or established. This tendency
stems from their natural inclination to trust what they know from
experience, their own or others'. One of the reasons Sensors like data so
much is that data are just facts that have been collected in a purposeful
way. Intuitives are generally satisfied with less empirical proof in order
to believe something is possible, or doable, since they have greater faith
that although an answer may not be apparent, it just means it hasn't been
found . . . yet!
Which do I trust more: my direct
experience or my gut instinct? Am I more tuned in to the here-and-now or
do I often imagine how things will affect future events?
Many Type experts believe that of the
four type dimensions, the Sensing and Intuition scale represents the
greatest differences between people, since it really influences one's
worldview. A research project we conducted demonstrated this vividly.
People were presented the facts of a murder case that involved a young
woman accused of stabbing her live-in boyfriend. The boyfriend had abused
the defendant in the past while intoxicated. Her attorney argued that she
suffered from "battered woman syndrome." And so, at the time of
the incident, she had reason to believe that her life was in jeopardy, and
acted in self-defense. On the other side, the prosecution claimed she
offered no proof that she had reason to fear for her life, could have left
the scene, and therefore had no justification for killing her boyfriend.
While the majority (75%) of both Sensors
and Intuitives voted "not guilty," Sensors were more than
twice as likely to vote for murder as were Intuitives. These results
were consistent both with Personality Type theory and with our experience
as trial consultants. "Battered woman syndrome" is a theory; an
idea, a concept that requires jurors to imagine how an abusive
relationship can cause a particular psychological response. It is not a
condition that can be documented or verified scientifically. Since
Intuitives are naturally interested in the psychological workings of human
relationships, they are much more likely to accept this theory as valid
than their Sensing counterparts.
Sensors, on the other hand, prefer clear,
tangible proof, and are naturally drawn to practical, rather than
theoretical, explanations. In this case, the Sensors focused on the murder
itself, and the fact that the defendant was physically able to leave her
boyfriend that evening, while the Intuitives focused on the defendant's
motivations and psychological justification for her behavior.
Sensors and Intuitives tend to have
different attitudes about important issues such as crime and punishment,
as their answers to this question demonstrate
To fight crime, tax dollars would be better
spent on ( 1 ) more police, tougher sentencing, and more prisons or (2)
more social programs for disadvantaged youth.
Twice as many Intuitives as Sensors
answered "social programs," and Sensors were more than three
times as likely to answer "more police and prisons" as
Intuitives. Predictably, Sensors favored established actions designed to
have an immediate effect (such as adding more police or building
additional prisons), and whose effect could be somehow measured.
Intuitives sought solutions that took into account the underlying causes
of societal problems (such as how the lack of social programs is related
to increased crime), and were more eager to seek new, untried, and
innovative solutions. And their focus was on how actions taken today would
affect future generations. The results reinforced the belief that,
politically, Sensors tend to be more conservative and Intuitives more
liberal.
Do I like new ideas just for their own
sake or only if they have practical utility?
Many Sensors are most comfortable with
what is familiar, while Intuitives are usually drawn to what is new and
different. Theories, concepts, and hypotheses appeal to most Intuitives
because they represent possibilities. The fact that something is untried
and unproven is not a turnoff to Intuitives. Rather, it is the potential
offered by the new idea or situation that excites them the most. Sensors,
of course, are also interested in new ideas, but only once they are
convinced that something real and useful will come of them.
Sal was always inventing something. If it
wasn't a brand-new idea, he could find ways of improving just about
anything. His latest idea was a new kind of bracket to hang pictures on
the wall that would keep them straight—eliminating the need for
constant straightening. As he had with countless other ideas, Sal
discussed this with his brother-in-law, Jack, with hopes of persuading
him to invest the necessary seed money to make a prototype. Jack, a
clear Sensor, had his doubts. First, he questioned whether the world
really needed a better way of hanging pictures. After all, the old way
must be good enough, since it had been around forever. He was skeptical
that this new mechanism would really work as Sal promised, and, even if
it did, wondered whether Sal had the patience and single-mindedness
required to make his idea a reality. Fortunately, Sal met another
amateur inventor, who had a contact at a fastener company. Sal met with
a representative there, who expressed genuine interest in his project.
When Sal reported this to his brother-in-law, Jack's attitude changed
completely. Having received validation from a credible source that Sal's
gizmo might really be marketable, Jack became more enthusiastic and
eventually provided Sal's seed money.
If Intuitives are the
"thinker-uppers"—people who love to invent the better
mousetrap—then, certainly, Sensors are the "getter-doners"—the
people who actually make the idea work. As we've said before, people of
both preferences have different gifts, and it is easy to see the important
role each plays in so many areas of life. Take business, for example. Each
year, thousands of new businesses are started up in this country. Many are
franchise operations, which duplicate already successfully tested ideas.
But others are truly entrepreneurial, the result of someone's vision (or
intuition) about a product or service which doesn't yet exist, but that
the entrepreneur believes people will want.
Would I rather use an established skill
or do I become bored easily after I've mastered it?
For many Intuitives, it is the creative
part of the process that is most energizing. Once their inspiration has
been given life, and the bugs have been worked out, they would rather go
on to something else, leaving the details to others. Fortunately, those
people are usually Sensors, who often enjoy and excel at setting up
systems and following procedures so that things run smoothly. This is
called being efficient. While the exact statistics of all the many
hundreds of new businesses started each year are often disputed, it is
common knowledge that a high percentage of them fail. Although many
reasons are cited for this, including undercapitalization, lack of
experience, and unanticipated market forces, there is another possible
explanation that has a lot to do with Type preferences. Quite simply, the
people who are talented at thinking things up are seldom as talented at
making them work. This rests primarily on the fact that they dislike, and
therefore avoid, any routine or repetitive activity for any period of
time. Their interest tends to wane as soon as the creative challenges have
been met.
Conversely, Sensors enjoy learning a skill,
then using it repeatedly in an effective way. Whether as a surgeon
performing an operation, an artist painting a portrait, a bookkeeper
tallying figures, or a plumber installing a toilet, Sensors' combination
of being very aware of their bodies and living totally in the present
moment enables them to derive pleasure from performing the act itself.
Intuitives often have a very different experience. For them, what the act
means or represents is often more important than the act itself. And
coupled with their future time orientation, they are often less than fully
engaged in whatever task they are performing at the time. Therefore they
don't usually experience the same pleasure Sensors take in repeating a
task or using the same skill once they've mastered it.
From the time he was a young boy, Thomas, an
Intuitive, thought he wanted to be a dentist. Of course the fact that
both his father and grandfather were dentists may have influenced his
decision a little bit. By his second semester of dental school, Thomas
realized he had made a big mistake. For while the other students enjoyed
learning standard tooth repair techniques, such as filling a cavity,
Thomas thought he would go crazy if he had to do the procedure the same
(excruciatingly boring) way, even one more time. When he found himself
fantasizing about all the other ways a tooth could be filled, even
outrageous ones like going in through the ear, or removing the top ofthe
head, he realized he would never be happy as a dentist and fortunately
(for him, and future patients!) changed professions.
That Sensors and Intuitives are often drawn
to different subjects in school should come as no surprise. Intuitives are
often more interested in theoretical studies like philosophy, psychology,
sociology, and literature, while Sensors are often interested in more
tangible subjects with practical applications, such as engineering,
science, and business. This is not meant to imply that there are no
Intuitive engineers, or that Sensors can't be successful psychologists,
only that they don't tend to gravitate to these types of occupations in
nearly the same percentages.
Sensors represent about 65 percent and
Intuitives about 35 percent of the American population, giving Sensors
somewhat of a numerical advantage. By now you should have a fairly good
idea of whether your preference is for Sensing or Intuition. Again, if you
are unsure, don't worry about it—you will have several other
opportunities to clarify which one it is. As you did with Extraversion and
Introversion, please place a mark on the continuum below to indicate where
you think you fit. And again, even if you're not 100 percent certain which
side you belong on, try to indicate which side you probably fall
on, even if it's just slightly over the center line.
You're doing great! Now we'll move on and
describe the third type dimension: Thinking and Feeling.
Thinker or Feeler: A Matter of
Principles or Values
While Sensing and Intuition describe
the different ways people take in information, Thinking and Feeling
describe the very different ways people make decisions, or come to
conclusions. Clearly, each of us has the ability to make a decision based
on logic or on our personal feelings and values. And, while no one is a
pure Thinker or Feeler, each of us has a natural inborn preference for one
side over the other. Here again, the everyday usage of these words may
initially give you an inaccurate impression of their true meaning. It's
important to understand that Thinking and Feeling both describe rational
decision-making processes. It's not that Thinkers have no feelings, or
that Feelers are incapable of logic. But Thinkers and Feelers use very
different criteria to make their decisions.
The questions below should help you figure
out which decision-making process is your natural preference.
Do I make decisions more objectively,
weighing the pros and cons, or based on how I feel about the issue, and
how I and others will be affected by it?
For Thinkers, logic rules. When making
a decision, it's as if they take a step back and analyze the issue
logically and impersonally, asking themselves: "Does this make sense?
What are the pros and cons? What are the ramifications of the
decision?" In other words, they objectify the decision. For
Feelers, the process is just the opposite. They take a step forward,
injecting themselves into the equation, and ask: "How do I feel about
this? How will it affect me and others? Is this the right thing to do?
What are my personal values telling me to do?" In other words, they persoralize
the situation.
Jean faced the kind of dilemma not uncommon
for Feeling types. She needed to travel from Boston to New York for a
conference, and a colleague invited her to ride with him in his car. Under
normal circumstances, this would have been an ideal arrangement, but there
was a hitch: Jean didn't respect her col
league, and, more important, she didn't
like him.
The only other feasible option was to take
the train, which would be a major inconvenience. Not only would it cost
a lot more, but it would take almost twice as long, since she would have
to take taxis to and from the stations. Her Thinking friend Sandra's
reaction was typical: "Are you nuts? You're going to waste two days
and who knows how much money just because you don't like this guy?
Nobody's asking you to marry him—just to spend four hours in the car
with him!"
Still, Jean decided to take the train.
Although she agreed with her Thinking friend that it might not be the
smart thing to do, she believed it was the right thing to do. For not
only would she feel like a hypocrite taking the ride with a person she
clearly disliked, but she would have to pretend she liked him for
several hours, and that felt phony and went too much against her values.
Might another Feeling type have handled the
situation differently? Of course. But this demonstrates how important
personal feelings and values are to Feeling types, and the length to which
many will go to remain true to their beliefs.
Laura and Ted both sat through the same
conflict-riddled staff meeting, in which they found themselves on
opposite sides of a heated debate about whether to go ahead with a
public relations campaign that Ted found offensive. After the meeting
adjoumed, Laura, a Thinker, calmly suggested she and Ted have lunch
together. For Ted, a Feeler, the idea was crazy. How could Laura be so
calm and unaffected after that painful and contentious meeting? And how
could she be so unaware of how rattled Ted still felt? He certainly
didn't feel like spending any time with her now. And, in fact, he was
still too upset to even think about eating. Ted remained focused on the
disharmony, and felt a personal reaction to it, whereas Laura had never
taken the argument or campaign to heart, and remained objective and
detached.
Which words describe me better: logical
and analytical, or sensitive and empathetic?
Naturally, Thinkers tend to be better
at some things than Feelers, and Feelers better at some things than
Thinkers. Since people enjoy using their natural strengths, it comes as no
surprise that preferences for Thinking or Feeling will often influence
career choices. The helping professions, for example, attract larger
numbers of Feelers, because these jobs give them the opportunity to
satisfy one of their greatest needs, to help people. This is certainly not
meant to imply that Thinkers, by definition, are insensitive and
self-centered. But Feelers tend to have an innate drive to understand
others, and derive great satisfaction from helping them in whatever ways
they can. For this reason, medicine (nursing, in particular), teaching,
counseling, and sales are just a few of the areas that attract large
numbers of Feelers.
Thinkers also derive their greatest
satisfaction from using their natural gifts, one of which is the ability
to analyze situations logically and objectively. Business, and especially
management, for example, attracts a lot of Thinkers, in part because when
it comes to making the hard decision—decisions frequently based
primarily on the bottom line, and what's best for the company (even when
that may have negative effects on its employees), it's Thinkers who are
more easily able to do this with clarity and conviction.
The discussion was getting pretty heated
between Jason and Richard. The decision to relocate the clothing
manufacturing company they both worked for to Mexico had already been
made. At issue was how far the company should go to salvage the jobs of
the seven hundred workers—many of whose parents and grandparents had
worked for the company. In a last-ditch effort to save their jobs, and
their town, the employees proposed they buy the facility and operate the
plant themselves. That model had been successful in similar situations,
but they needed the company to finance the buyout.
Jason, the vice president for finance,
argued against the deal. "First, let me say, I am very sympathetic
to the plight of the workers. I've known several of them for years and,
on a personal level, feel terrible about what they are going through.
But my first concern has to be the economic well-being of the company.
And, frankly, what they are proposing is a highly speculative venture.
If we weren't able to make enough of a profit for it to make sense to
stay here, how can people without professional management expertise be
expected to? Besides, the rate of return we will receive on our
investment if they should happen to succeed is simply not as high as we
can get from a dozen other proven investment vehicles. Regardless of how
unpleasant the situation, our primary obligation is to our stockholders,
and I just can't, in good conscience, recommend a deal about which I
have such serious reservations."
Richard, vice president for human resources,
was turning redder by the minute. "First of all, I don't agree that
investing in the employees is any riskier than any other venture we
might get involved in for one big reason: they are highly motivated to
make it work. For Pete's sake, their lives—the life of their
town—depends on their succeeding! How can you have any doubts they
will work their hearts out to make it work? Second, yes, we are in
business to make money—and we make lots of it. But we owe something to
the people who have helped us make all that money for close to a hundred
years. We're not talking about a few jobs here. We're talking about
closing down the biggest employer in the county and moving away to
Mexico, not because we're going out of business, not even because we
weren't making a profit, but because we want to make more of a profit.
All I'm saying is many things go into the bottom line, and profitability
is surely a big one. But in order to be a responsible corporate citizen,
you have to take into account how this decision will affect real
people—and not just our stockholders—for years and years to come,
and don't do just what is financially conservative, but do what is
right!"
While one decision-making process is not
better than the other, Jason the Thinker and Richard the Feeler offer a
good example of how different types use different criteria to make
decisions. It's not that Jason is heartless, but like a classic Thinker,
he simply stepped back from the decision, analyzed it logically, and came
to his conclusion, based on what he believed was best for the company.
Richard, like a classic Feeler, stepped forward and put him self in the
employees' shoes. Strongly influenced by his personal beliefs and values,
he fought for what he felt would be best for the employees.
Thinkers are often attracted to careers
that deal primarily with goods, rather than services: for example,
manufacturing, engineering, and research and development. It's not that
Thinkers don't like to or can't work with people, but jobs that require
them to constantly pay attention to, anticipate, and respond to people's
feelings are just so much less clear cut than dealing with products, or
commodities, that are constant and predictable. Many Thinkers are most
satisfied in jobs where there is a minimum of employee hand-holding or
caretaking. They like working with other people just as competent as they
are.
Is it more important to be truthful,
even if it hurts someone's feelings or to be tactful, even if it means
telling a little white lie?
Feelers are naturally more attentive
and concerned with other people because they have such a strong need to be
liked. Consequently, they will often go to great lengths to please others.
This can take such simple forms as just being helpful and friendly, which
most Feelers genuinely are, to the sometimes unhealthy but common tendency
to take on other people's problems and burdens as their own. In
practically every organization across the country, you can find the
nurturer, the person to whom coworkers go for emotional support and
comfort. And while not a formal job title, it might just as well be, for
it is what he or she does really well—listen to people's problems and
sometimes give them good advice. Whether appreciated by the company or
not, these people provide a valuable service. However, in their desire to
help and please others, some Feelers are also notorious white liars.
Anxious not to deliberately cause someone discomfort, embarrassment, or
hurt feelings, they will often engage in half truths, or avoid unpleasant
subjects altogether, if they can get away with it.
One morning, after being away for a week on
vacation, Tim walked into the office with a new look. Possessed by who
knows what, he had shorn just about all of his normally long, yet
stylish, hair. In its place was what could best be described as the kind
of ubiquitous crew cut ten-year-old boys were commonly given by their
mothers in their kitchens in the 1 950s. Jill, his colleague, and a
strong Feeler, was the first person he encountered.
"So, what do you think?" asked Tim
excitedly. Jill was taken aback What she honestly thought was that this
former hunk looked like a refugee from a third-world country. But she
wouldn't actually admit that in a million years. What she managed to say
was, "Well, that certainly is a look! You know, that cut really
accentuates your eyes," and she fled down the hall to avoid
offending him or further embarrassing herself.
True to their style, Tim's Thinking
colleagues were more honest, and more blunt. Alex's response pretty much
summed it all up: "Two questions: one, what did you do to your
head?, and two, what could you possibly have been thinking at the
time?"
Thinkers don't mean to be cruel, any more
than Feelers mean to be dishonest. It's just that, above all else,
Thinkers value truth and honesty, and if that occasionally hurts someone's
feelings, so be it. Feelers highly value tact and diplomacy, and believe
it should be used whenever possible to avoid causing anyone unnecessary
pain or discomfort.
While Feelers are often criticized for
being too soft and emotional, and Thinkers are often criticized as being
cold and insensitive, neither of these is an accurate characterization.
But to each other, they often do appear this way.
Which usually persuades me more? A good
logical argument, or a strong emotional appeal?
Just as Thinkers and Feelers make
decisions based upon different criteria, so, too, are they persuaded by
different arguments. Feelers are naturally empathetic and value the
feelings of others, even if they do not make sense or are not logical.
Thinkers, on the other hand, are usually not convinced of anything unless
it is logical. Feelings are valid, if they are a logical reaction to the
circumstances. Because of this difference, it's not surprising that
Thinkers and Feelers misunderstand each other so often. Feelers tend to be
hurt more easily and more frequently, and Thinkers are often surprised and
confused to learn they were responsible for making it happen.
Thinkers also pride themselves on their
ability to rule fairly in disputes. They are keen on the principle of one
standard or rule, applied fairly and justly to everyone. Even if they do
not personally like the consequence of the ruling, they respect the idea
of fairness above all. Feelers are much more concerned with mercy and
harmony than they are with justice. So they look for and usually find the
extenuating circumstances that necessitate the exception to the rule.
Which is the greater compliment: to be
tough or to be tender?
While all of us need to be tough
sometimes and tender at others, it is typically the Thinkers who pride
themselves on their ability to remain dispassionate and firm in their
actions. But it's important to make the distinction that if the issue is a
personal one, or the people involved are loved ones, Thinkers will often
claim they are just as tenderhearted as the next person. And Feelers,
usually quick to claim tenderhearted as the more apt description, can be
surprisingly tough and unyielding when it comes to their personal
convictions.
Rachel and Suzanne, two Feelers, held
opposite views on the controversial issue of abortion. On the morning of
an anticipated court ruling, both stood out in front of the courthouse
with signs and voices raised. They were equally passionate, equally
unwilling to compromise their beliefs. A friend commented that no one
would ever believe it, but the two women had been best friends in
college. But the abortion debate had caused a rending of their
friendship that would probably never be mended.
Had the two women been Thinkers, they might
have been able to put the issue aside and maintain their friendship in
spite of their differences. As Feelers, it was impossible for either of
them to separate their values from the rest of their lives.
Thinking and Feeling is the only dimension
of Personality Type in which there appears to be a gender difference. That
is, in the American population, roughly 50 percent are Thinkers and 50
percent are Feelers, but of the Thinkers, about 65 percent are men, and of
the Feelers, 65 percent are women. In addition to these biological
influences on Type, the American culture overtly and subtly encourages
males to act more Thinking and females to act more Feeling, which often
imposes an unfair and unwelcome burden on Thinking women and Feeling men.
Okay, you know the drill. Try to figure out
which you are—a Thinker or a Feeler. Then we will move on to describe
the fourth and final type dimension.
Judger or Perceiver: Planning It or Winging
It?
The final type dimension describes the very
different ways people like to organize their world, and how they like to
live their lives. And, once again, we need to clarify the terms. Being a
Judger doesn't mean a person is necessarily judgmental, any more than
being a Perceiver means a person is particu larly perceptive. Perceiving
refers to one's innate drive to keep things open, to keep taking in
information, to keep perceiving. Judging refers to an opposite innate
drive, to close things down, make a decision, or to judge.
Do I tend to make most decisions quickly
and easily or does making decisions often make me anxious and unsure?
Would I rather have things settled and decided or be able to leave my
options open, just in case something unexpected comes up?
The reason Judgers like to decide and
Perceivers like to keep things open has to do with tension. This tension
is often experienced on an unconscious level, without the person even
being aware of it. Since experiencing tension is uncomfortable, human
beings naturally try to reduce their discomfort. Judgers feel tension
until an issue is decided, so they move to closure as soon as possible.
This can take many forms, but usually involves making a judgment or
decision about something. And usually the more important the decision, the
stronger the need to resolve the issue quickly. For example, when a Judger
is invited to a concert, he experiences an urge to decide. Whether or not
he wants to go, he feels a need to make a decision. And un' less he has a
lot of ambivalence about accepting, he usually feels relieved once things
are settled. But Perceivers experience an opposite tension, for it is
being forced to decide that causes them pressure and discomfort.
Therefore, they alleviate the tension by not deciding, by keeping their
options open as long as possible. If a Perceiver were invited to the
concert, unless she really wanted to go, she would likely feel
uncomfortable deciding or making a commitment too far in advance. After
all, she would reason, something better might come along!
These are such opposite styles that Judgers
and Perceivers often miscommunicate. Because Judgers are more definitive
about everything, they tend to speak with authority. During a discussion,
a Judger tends to hear decisions being made, even if they have not been.
Conversely, since Perceivers are more equivocal about everything, they may
even hear firm plans as undecided, as if they were only options being
considered.
Since their desire is for closure, Judgers
generally require less information to make decisions than do Perceivers. A
scene played out every day at lunch counters across the country
illustrates this point.
It's lunch time and Robert and Alex are
deciding what to order Robert, a Judger, looks over the menu quickly,
decides on a tuna salad on wheat toast with iced tea—the same lunch he
has on most trips to this diner After several minutes, the waiter
appears to take their order, but Alex is still looking. He asks the
waiter a series of questions regarding how lean the roast beef is today,
whether the soup has a chicken or beef stock base, and if the chicken
salad is made with white meat or dark. Still not sure, he asks for a few
more minutes while Robert scowls and his stomach growls. Even after Alex
finally chooses the turkey club, and the waiter walks away, he looks
wistfully at the menu again, and says, "Maybe I should have ordered
a burger."
Because Judgers like things decided, they
are most comfortable when they can make a plan and stick to it.
Conversely, they can find it disconcerting when plans are changed
unexpectedly.
Planning a vacation together became a
torturous exercise for new friends, Lucy and Jean. Since Lucy had won a
trip for two to the Caribbean, the destination was never at issue. But
Lucy's clear preference for Judging and Jean's equally clear preference
for Perceiving became obvious early on when Lucy surprised Jean with a
detailed itinerary for the entire week. Not only was there a plan for
each of the seven days, but she had even included times when they would
eat, swim, and shop.
Jean was shocked. Although Lucy didn't
present her plan as a take-it-or-leave-it proposition, Jean had imagined
a very different scenario. Since she would be visiting a place she'd
never been, she was eager to explore. She had pictured herself wandering
the winding streets leisurely, shopping and sightseeing, and just
letting herself be swept along by the natural rhythm of the island. She
craved the freedom to respond spontaneously to whatever new adventure
she might encounter. The more she thought about having her time so
planned out and controlled, the more uncomfortable she got.
Happily, Lucy and Jean were able to discuss
their personality differences and very different expectations and arrive
at some creative compromises, involving more independence for each. I
his arrangement allowed each to have the kind of experience they
desired.
Lucy and Jean's story also illustrates how
different Judgers and Perceivers are with regard to order and structure.
Judgers are usually more comfortable with the notion of rules and place
high importance on following them, while Perceivers view rules as unwanted
restrictions on their freedom and their ability to be spontaneous.
Likewise, Judgers are generally more comfortable with authority and have a
natural respect for hierarchy. Perceivers are more naturally inclined to
rebel against, or at least question, authority and