Ten
Things I Wish I'd Known--Before I Went Out Into the Real World
by Maria Shriver

First and Foremost:
Pinpoint Your Passion
Be honest with yourself about
it. Really think about what you're interested in. What you enjoy, what
captures your imagination and gets your brain going. What YOU want to
do—not what you believe your parents or your teachers or society or your
four brothers think you should do.
When I graduated back in 1977, all I wanted
to do was anchor a network TV show. Everyone thought I was nuts. My
parents' friends told me to get a grip on myself and go to law school
until I could figure out what I really wanted to do. Others suggested I
should catch the wave that was surely going to wash up on Wall Street. My
girlfriends all wanted to go to the big city, get an apartment together,
and have a blast. Still other people told me to get out of denial, stop
fighting the family tradition, and go into politics. All legitimate goals,
but they weren't mine.
I wanted to make a difference in people's
lives, but not through the law or business or politics or public service.
I wanted to tell the stories of the day in the medium of the day,
television—reaching out to the world with ideas, made real in words and
pictures.
Now, how had I gotten so passionate about
going into television news? I was bitten by the bug back in 1972, when I
was still in high school. As the ancient history majors among you may
know, that year my father was the Democratic nominee for vice president. I
was helping out on his campaign, and I was lucky to get the rare
opportunity to travel on the campaign plane. (Note: If you have the
inclination or the opportunity to work on an election campaign, grab it. I
guarantee you'll learn more about people and politics in this country than
almost anywhere else your travels may take you.)
My father's staff stuck
me—"candidate's kid, obviously a brat!"—with
"THEM" in the back of the plane. It turned out to be the best
thing that ever happened to me. You see, the back of the plane was where
the fun was, because "THEM" was the press, the hardworking,
wisecracking guys (and a few women) from the big national
media—newspapers, wire services, radio, and TV. Most of them had covered
politics for years, watching the passing parade of candidates and
campaigns through practiced (some would say jaundiced) eyes. They were
constantly observing and commenting, and their endless stream of quips and
coverage—even cartoons—put the presidential campaign on a whole new
plane for me. Literally.
Remember, I'd lived and breathed politics
my entire life—had political discussion and debate served like mashed
potatoes with dinner every night since I was a little kid. In a lot of
ways, politics and making history was the family business. But that year
on the campaign, I experienced firsthand something groundshaking to me: I
saw how the newspeople put their fingerprints on history before it became
history, taking something that had just happened in front of my eyes and
giving it context. What the public saw was not the raw event I was
experiencing on the campaign. It was filtered and explained and shaped by
the journalists first.
And as we traveled the country, this
colorful, wonderful band of smart and funny explainers and shapers was
constantly changing. Reporters and crews from local media would jump on
board for a while and then drop off—people with regional interests, like
agriculture in Wichita or unionism in Detroit, who'd put their own spin on
it. And I also got to fraternize with and observe some of the real heavy
hitters of political journalism. They'd travel with the campaign for
varying lengths of time, and I'd eagerly await their pieces in the New
York Times or the Washington Post or the CBS Evening News
and scarf them up.
But the difference between regional and
national reporters wasn't the only one I noticed. The straight reporters
would report what they'd seen and heard—picking and choosing their story
elements from what actually happened, but then just showing and describing
them and letting readers or viewers come to their own conclusions. In
contrast, the name columnists and commentators would get to interpret and
analyze, offering their personal takes on what was going on in Campaign
'72.
Either way, though, I saw it was the
newspeople, not my dad or his press people, who decided what part of a
speech, if anything, made it into the papers or on the air. By punching up
certain issues or making the candidates the issue or focusing on the horse
race, these journalists wielded huge influence. And it seemed to me that
television had the most heat. It possessed an immediacy, an ability to
capture and transmit the excitement (or the boredom) of the campaign—and
the sincerity (or cynicism) of the candidates.
And it dawned on me right there in the back
of the plane eating peanuts, that television would be the politics of the
future. Television would be the way to touch people, move and excite them,
anger and educate them the way politicians used to when they had direct
contact with voters one-on-one in the streets. I knew this in my gut, and
I wanted in.
Remember, this was the 1972 election, just
a heartbeat before the Watergate scandal broke open. Before Bob Woodward
and Carl Bernstein (let alone Robert Redford and Dustin Hoffman)
intoxicated a generation with the ideal of crusading journalists exposing
the bad guys to the light of the truth. In 1972, the news biz was not an
obvious career choice, especially for a young woman.
So I sat in the back of the plane eating
too many peanuts (more on that later), thinking, "Yes, this is for
me." I, too, would travel the country and even the world, meeting
people from every place and every walk of life. I'd hear their stories and
then turn around and bear witness, sharing them with the rest of the
country. I would be part of this pack of intense and highly competitive
professionals. Work would never be boring. Laughter was a big part of it.
And hadn't I always said I didn't want a desk job? These guys on the plane
didn't even have desks.
Day after day, I asked my traveling
companions every question I could think of. Where'd you go to school? What
did you study? How did you get all of your experience? How do you handle
the competition? What about that punishing deadline every day? Do you
dread it or crave it? How many newspapers a day do you read? Five? How do
you get scoops? How can you be so breezy, schmoozing politics with the
other reporters, when your real goal is to beat the pants off them every
night? When do you see your kids? I soaked up the answers, and my own
dreams came into focus. By the time Campaign '72 was over, I knew what I
wanted to do with my life—but I didn't tell a soul.
I didn't tell anyone because I thought
they'd view it as silly, and I didn't want the hassle of trying to
convince them otherwise. I knew otherwise, and that was enough. Also, part
of it had just a little something to do with my family, which regarded the
press in many ways as an adversary across a great divide—prying into our
lives, chronicling our every move. Like many young people who are
secretive about their dreams, I thought my family would be incredibly
disappointed in my choice.
But remember, just because you think
you must fulfill others' expectations doesn't mean you have to. And
here's something shocking: You actually might be wrong. I was. When I
finally told my parents what I wanted to do, they never once warned me not
to. They never once told me I couldn't or shouldn't or wouldn't possibly
succeed in the news business. They just nodded and said they regretted
they couldn't really help me in that business, and they gave me their
blessing. They might have thought I was silly or nuts, but they never let
me know. They let me grow, and any skepticism they possessed changed into
pride. Eventually.
Of course, my father's ticket lost the
election in 1972. But not me. I won—a vision I could follow into my
future, a passion I could pursue. It colored every decision I made after
that—where I lived, where I worked, and who I spent time with. I was
determined to learn everything I could about TV news, and I was determined
to be good at it.
Lesson
Trust your gut, no matter what you expect
your parents or teachers or anyone else will think of your choice. Lots
of people don't know where to start. So try to pinpoint the field, the
area, the kinds of people you want to be with. It's your life. Go with
your gut.
Copyright © 2000 by Maria Shriver
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