Gay
Astrology: The Complete Relationship Guide for Gay Men
by Michael Yawney
Introduction
What makes a gay astrology book different
from a straight one?
The question is a good one. After all, an
astrological sign is what it is. Should it not be the same for anyone, gay
or straight?
The answer is that the basic qualities of a
sun sign are the same for everyone. However, these qualities do express
themselves differently depending on the specifics of someone's life. A
Capricorn in boot camp behaves differently from one working in a hair
salon. In each case the behavior will be Capricorn, but the particulars
will be different.
And gay lives are different from straight
ones in many ways. Straight people do not need to worry about coming out,
relationships with competing male egos, parenting without society's
support, and a whole pile of issues that every gay man faces every day of
his life. A gay astrology book should deal with the particulars of gay
life and how each sun sign deals with these concerns.
But gay lives are also different from each
other. As are the lives of various people with the same sun sign.
Each sun sign represents an energy that has
to be acted out by someone of that sign in order for that person to be
happy. A Leo leather daddy and a girly-girl Leo might act out their sun
sign's energy in ways that are very far apart— but still unmistakably
Leo. A gay astrology book should recognize the diversity of the gay
community and show how there are many different ways to be a sun sign.
Just like there are many different ways of being gay.
(Quick explanation: If you do not know what
a sun sign is, it is the astrological sign that you look up when you check
your horoscope. Each person has many signs in his or her astrological
chart—one for each celestial body and other indicators in the sky when
the person was born. This book will not get technical and will only deal
with sun signs. The other signs do affect behavior and the psychological
makeup of an individual, but the sun sign is the most important factor in
a chart.)
Now, on to a bigger question: Does
astrology work? In my experience, yes. Why does astrology work? I
have absolutely no idea.
Yet it does work. Most people have noticed
that their best friends tend to be of one sign and that persons of another
sign will make their skin crawl. Workplaces are usually dominated by one
or two signs. The reason is that most people have signdar. It kind of
works like gaydar. And, like gaydar, you might be using it without
realizing that you are. Here is a good example. I worked for a Libra who
hated astrology and purposely avoided looking at applicants' birthdates.
She also avoided asking about sexual orientation. She made six to ten
hires a year. A full 50 percent were Libras! Nearly half the women hired
were lesbians! This boss had fully operational signdar and gaydar.
If you have never done it, it is a good
exercise to make a list of all your ex-boyfriends. Even the ones you had
the most casual, short-lived relationships with. (For some of you this may
take a few hours.)
Next to their names, write their
astrological signs. (Come on. You probably know it for most of them.)
Chances are that one or two signs will dominate the list. Flip to the part
of this book that tells about those signs and you will find a pretty good
description of the kind of men that attract you.
When astrology does not work, it is usually
because we are looking for the wrong information. The sun sign gives
information on a certain part of the personality. It describes the
conscious part of the psyche. It expresses who one believes himself to be.
It will tell how one thinks and solves problems. It will tell what
motivates one to act. It will tell where a person's energy in life comes
from.
The sun sign alone cannot tell you whom you
will be "compatible" with. It can predict strengths and
weaknesses in a relationship. It is very good at predicting what common
interests a couple will share, what their arguments will be about, and
what patterns they will fall into in daily life.
Astrology can predict whom one might fall
in love with. (The moon, Venus, and Saturn are the big indicators for the
love bond.) However, for that you need a complete chart for both parties,
and an astrologer with top-notch chart analyzing skills.
And is it not more fun to fall in love on
your own without any astrological assistance?
Astrology should never become a substitute
for your own experience. Rather than using astrology to anticipate and
manipulate the future, it can most effectively be used as a tool toward
understanding what lies underneath events and relationships in your
life—past, present, and future.
This book will not tell you what signs are
compatible. Instead it will describe the challenges and joys that await
couples with specific combinations of sun signs. This book will discuss
what the various bonds between signs feel like.
One thing astrology teaches is that
everyone is lovable. No one is unsuitable for having a relationship. It is
just a matter of finding the right partner. It is my hope that this book
can help you in your search.
