Zen
In Everyday Living
by Tu Hoang
I seem to keep a lot of things on my mind.
Thinking about work and worrying about my job security, wondering about my
relationship with family and friends, trying to figure out where to invest
my money, having to buy a new set of tires for the car, engrossed in the
war on terrorism, seeing that all my buddies are getting married and a
thousand other things that gnaw at me throughout the day.
I am not the only one with a lot on my
mind. I have friends who are dissatisfied with their careers but work it
so they can afford the house and the baby. I know guys with beautiful
girlfriends and nice cars that still seek approval. I know girls with
great careers; lots of friends but can not find love.
So it is easy for us all to be stressed. We
look forward to ‘going out’, meeting up with friends, shopping,
weekends when we can retreat to our homes, spending time with the new baby
and all the other little moments that give us pleasure before we
re-immerse ourselves into the immense displeasure of the daily drone. Life
seems like a cycle of seeking pleasure, in material things, in business
success or in personal relationships in order to stem the displeasures of
circumstance.
I recently delved into Zen in order to
break this cycle and experience life in its entirety; not embracing just
the good bits and avoiding the bad bits because there will be times when
such things are out of our control. I still maintain my career ambitions,
my commitment to family and friends. My rent still has to be paid and my
car still needs four new tires. But my day is no longer a daily drone; no
longer a struggle and I no longer seek to ‘get away from it all’. I am
experiencing things for what they are and not what they should be or
aren’t. For a Zen master, who I am not, there is no friction
between himself and life and the world. Events and circumstances ebb and
flow but he is always centered steering his life wherever he sees fit and
acting in a way that is always appropriate to the situation.
So what is Zen and how can it be used.
Well, Zen is not a religion. There is Zen Buddhism but there can also be
Zen Catholicism as well. There is no morality or ethics in Zen; for
morality or ethics you will have to look elsewhere like Buddhism or
Catholicism. Zen is a way of looking and confronting events, circumstances
and life.
Joseph Campbell said of Zen practice, “It
is like an athlete when he’s in the zone, except all of the time.” I
thought it would be great to live and handle challenges and interact with
people like I was in that zone all of the time. Don’t you?
Here are some techniques for laypeople to
obtain the benefits of Zen.
Focused Breathing:
One of the basic ways of clearing your head
of distractions so that you can concentrate is focusing on your breathing.
Harvard Medical Center researchers can this the relaxation principle. In
Zen it is called zazen or sitting meditation but I do this while jogging,
reading and working. When you are relaxed you are more focused and
effective in the task at hand.
To do this you must relax your diaphragm
and be fully conscious of your breathing. This is not easy to do when you
are tense. It takes true self-awareness to realize that your body is
tense. It takes effort to relax those muscles in your stomach and
discipline to breath steadily.
But try to focus on your breathing; here is
a long breath in, here is a long breath out, here is a short breath in,
here is a short breath out. You will find that you will be more in tune to
the present moment. As your mind is focused on your breathing, your senses
take in the situation around you unencumbered and unfiltered. You begin to
see things as they unfold, hear and listen to sounds as they come, feel
and smell aromas as they arise without automatically shutting any of it
out or reflexively reacting to them.
Continued practice of focused breathing
will help you deal with situations in a more rational and objective
manner. It lets you put things in perspective. And it gives you insight
into the way your body responds under different situations.
Focused Breathing is the foundation for
adopting many of the other techniques of Zen. Practiced on its own it will
yield immense benefit to you.
Beginner’s Mind:
Zen is known for some very esoteric
notions, ‘No mind’, ‘With-out Thinking’ and a refutation of all
concepts in general. This is one reason Zen appears inaccessible and
nonsensical to the casual observer.
These notions are meant to encourage us to
adopt a basic tenant of Zen, the Beginner’s Mind. When we first
learn something we may be anxious, nervous, excited and looking forward to
it but we begin without concepts, knowledge or any ideas about the
subject. Maintaining a beginner’s mind, even in things that we are
already experts, means not to carry any preconceived ideas and beliefs
when confronting situations.
His students asked a Zen teacher if he ever
got tired of being asked the same question day in and day out. He replied
that each student was different and their question, though worded the
same, had a different meaning.
A beginner’s mind protects us from
over-conceptualizing, over-thinking and over-analyzing a situation. We are
better able to think outside of the box because we respond appropriately
to the needs of each situation. When we think we already know what is
going on or that we are already experts in our field we are trapped in one
mode of thinking. Many physicists, scientists, philosophers, economists
and corporate leaders practice Zen-like techniques because they are aware
of such traps.
The next time you think ‘here comes an
annoying co-worker’ or ‘someone has let me down again, they’re
always like this’ or ‘how am I ever going to get this done’, go back
to focusing on your breathing, take in the situation unencumbered and
unfiltered by your knowledge and conditioning and learning. Trust that you
have all of the prerequisite abilities that have taken you this far in
life to respond to any situation. Once your initial, reflexive thoughts
subside you will find that by not categorize situations as they arise you
will be open to more alternatives, more opportunities and more ways of
responding to the situation appropriately and effectively.
Mindfulness:
It is not easy to let go of our thoughts,
feelings and tension as they arise. Commotion, distractions and other
people requiring our attention surround us. We cannot always
maintain a beginner’s mind and often we cannot afford to focus on our
breathing because we are actively responding to something; this is
especially true with first applying Zen techniques. But like everything
else, continued practice allows us to live these techniques not just
merely apply them.
One way to over come the initial hurdles of
applying Zen in a busy day is to be Mindful; basically to be self-aware
and self-monitoring with the aim of accepting all of the thoughts and
feelings that arise in us without judging them or shutting them out.
When you are focused on your breathing,
with a Beginner’s Mind you will sense feelings and thoughts arising.
Focusing on your breathing will keep you centered, and with a Beginner’s
Mind you will observe thoughts and feelings without judging them; rather
let thoughts and feelings rise and subside while you pay attention but not
cling to them.
In Zen, all that arises within us are
natural; they are a result of what we are and how we are connected to the
world. Our eyes, ears and nose sense the world; we perceive, conceptualize
and feel because that is the expression of our body.
When we are mindful of anger, sadness,
nervousness and joy we acknowledge them, welcome them when they appear but
we do not cling to them. When we feel love or happiness we welcome these
feelings. It should be the same with anger and nervousness. All these
feelings are our mind, body and consciousness communicating to us. When we
are mindful of them we can only become wiser and more insightful.
I may get nervous before a test. ‘I
am nervous. Hello nervousness, how are you today? Glad to feel you
again.’ Focused breathing keeps me centered. When the test begins my
nervousness naturally subsides. ‘Farewell nervousness,’ and I am
completely in tuned with the task at hand.
Do not try to resist or suppress your
feelings. That only means you have turned your mind to them and are
clinging to them even more. Let your feelings and thoughts. Be mindful of
them. I find that as the situation dictates my distracting feelings and
thoughts subside allowing me to respond unencumbered by the task at
hand.
Focused breathing, Beginner’s Mind and
Mindfulness are basic Zen practices. They are almost common sense but
often we become mired in the complexities and details of every day living
and lose sight of common sense wisdom. Zen is not a monastic way of life.
The Zen ideal is to experience and embrace life experiences full on; not
editing out the bad bits because there are no bad bits, just things are
they are.
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Tu Hoang is a business student at
Ryerson University in Toronto, Canada. For comments email: fete@sprint.ca.