If you are looking for your value from outside of yourself, you may find that you are living beyond your means. You may dress yourself in expensive clothing, drive an expensive car and/or live in a big house in efforts to prove you are valuable. The value you get from your purchases is short-lived. If this belief system resonates with you, you may also notice that you have a tendency to determine the value of others by their material acquisitions. Looking for your value from outside of yourself can be an expensive endeavor that will leave you buried in debt. 

When you value yourself on the inside, you have the potential to be a magnet for money because money can be a symbol for value. When you value yourself, there is no need to prove you are valuable. Needing money to feel valuable puts too much weight on it. Money was never meant to determine your value. If you tend to struggle financially, it could be an indicator that a value issue has come up to be addressed.

Money can also be a symbol for safety and security. If you are looking to your bank account for your safety and security, you are placing too much weight on money and are likely to struggle with it. Spending money can be frightening to those who believe that money is their safety and security. Subconsciously they believe that they have to give up a little bit of their safety and security with every purchase. 

Janet worked for a great company with great people in “Corporate America.” It has always been important for Janet’s career to ignite her heart and soul. So when her job began to feel empty, and the thought of staying in her field until retirement became depressing, she asked for help.

Shortly after putting out the intention that something in the area of her career needed to change, a co-worker handed her a brochure from a local ski area. Her co-worker knew that Janet enjoyed skiing and had wanted to ski with her. As Janet flipped through the brochure, the subhead “Instructors ski free” caught her attention. Janet was a competent skier and had been wanting to fine tune her skills. The thought went through her mind, “What better way than to be an instructor!” She’d be able to ski whenever she wanted, and in learning to teach others, she’d be able to refine her own skills. What her co-worker hadn’t known was that Janet had been contemplating a career change.

Janet gathered her information and then discussed with her husband her desire to explore the possibility of a career change with skiing as a great, transitional position. They also discussed the feasibility of it working out financially.

Being outside, doing something fun, and making a little money, would be a great way for Janet to clear her head and to gain some direction. She and her husband figured they could swing the pay decrease for a few months and that the perks would allow their family more time on the snow together. 

Janet went through the training program, got the job and gave her notice. She left on good terms and within a month, her husband, who had been unhappy at his job, was offered a position at the company she left. They offered him a salary that made up for what she had given up financially, and she still got to socialize with the people she had come to enjoy at company gatherings. It felt like confirmation from the “Universe” to Janet—she felt that her desire was being valued and supported. 

Because Janet had valued the desires of her heart and soul, she was a magnet for value. She never could have pictured her exit out of “Corporate America” playing itself out as gracefully as this. She created the time she needed to re-group, her husband landed a job that offered him the opportunity to express himself more fully through his work, and her family did not have to suffer financially for her choice to honor herself. 

The person that Janet is, is very important to her and she knows that if she isn’t happy, those she loves are also adversely affected. She had learned that to be the person she wanted to be in her relationship with her husband and children required that she make her happiness a priority. For Janet, that meant doing work that ignites her heart and soul. Knowing this and having this priority, made it easier for Janet to leave her job.

Janet’s inner guidance had offered her a stepping stone toward her desire, and Janet had accepted it. There were people that didn’t understand her choice to leave her job, but fortunately, she didn’t really care what they thought. (It is important to address any fears that come up when initiating changes in your life.)

On Janet’s rides up the chairlift, she explored what she had loved about previous jobs, positive qualities people had pointed out to her about herself, what she had learned about herself through her personal and career experiences, what she wanted to express about herself through her work in the future, what impact she wanted to have, and how she wanted to feel through her work. She sent out her intentions of what she wanted in a career and enjoyed the unfolding process that led her to her next career. 

Money Myths

There are some myths about money which serve to further confuse us on our path. Myths such as “Money is the root of all evil,” “Money doesn’t grow on trees” (it is difficult to acquire), “Money can’t buy happiness,” “If I were rich my friends would resent me,” “Money corrupts people,” “Money is dirty,” “Having money is a burden,” “I feel guilty taking money for doing work I love,” and “It is better to give than to receive” speak to our subconscious. None of these myths (beliefs) will positively contribute to your financial flow, and some of these myths are subconscious messengers for money to stay away. If you have any of these myths attached to money, would you honestly want an abundance of it in your life?

Sometimes people use these beliefs as excuses for why they don’t have money. In an attempt to nobilize themselves, they form judgments against those who have what they are lacking. The people whom those-who-lack-in-the-financial-arena are judging, are often showing them their limiting beliefs around money. If you didn’t have the belief, you wouldn’t be making the judgment. 

If you have adopted or inherited one of these myths around money, it will be important to address it back to its origin and to heal all the pain that it has created. Then change the old myth into a myth that is supportive of abundance and prosperity. And to change it in a way that is for the highest and best for all concerned with harm to none in the process. The good news is that you don’t have to know in advance how that can happen, you just need to set the attention and ask for help with the process.

Money As An Obstacle

The only obstacles between you and what you want are the ones you have put in place. Money can be a great obstacle in this sense. It can really prevent you from doing what you want. If you are waiting for your money issues to be resolved so you can start living, you may want to stop putting your energy toward removing the money-obstacle and begin putting your energy toward what it is that is on the other side of it. I refer to this dynamic as the “When-Then Theory,” when my money issues are resolved, then I can travel, have fun, buy a new car, or relax. 

If, on some level, you don’t believe you deserve to travel, have fun, or have a new car, as examples, money issues can be a great logical reason why not. Money can be an excuse that the logical mind will use for why you don’t have or aren’t doing what you want. In focusing on your lack of money, you will create more lack because this is how energy works. As you create more lack, you will push what you “really” are desiring further and further out of reach. What you focus on, you are putting energy toward, and what you put your energy toward is what will take shape. This theory is simple, yet it is complex. 

By putting your energy toward what your money issues are blocking you from having, you are putting your energy toward creating what you want. For instance, if money is blocking you from traveling, start traveling. Don’t rack up your credit cards, but travel affordably, even if it is local travel. If you want a new car, focus on taking care of the car you have as if it were new. When you take care of your car, you are placing value on it. This focuses positive energy toward a car. Focusing on how much you dislike your present car, won’t energetically support the purchase of a new car. If you believe that you can’t be happy until you get a new car, this will place too much weight on a new car and create struggle with it. This doesn’t mean you won’t get a new car, but the journey toward purchasing it is likely to be more bumpy with such energy. 

Laura came to me with a desire for financial freedom. The only way that she could fathom it happening was by her getting a new job that made more money. As we explored and resolved her money issues, she realized that they were blocking her from having fun and traveling. She also realized that she had a loyalty to her deceased mother who had suffered, sacrificed and lived a life absent of fun. She unconsciously felt that having fun and traveling would be disrespectful to her mother. 

As Laura explored these issues and emerged with some newfound wisdom and compassion, she began giving herself permission to have fun. She started attracting opportunities to travel that were affordable and she took advantage of them. Then she met a man, who to her surprise, would later become her husband. Together they were able to resolve the financial matters that had manifested in their individual lives in a fun kind of way.

Laura had never pictured the resolution of her financial struggles to have been so elegant and fun. It even took the weight off her job so that she could enjoy it more and not feel so controlled by it. Laura had been in her 50’s and divorced at the time, and an intimate relationship hadn’t even been in her conscious thought process. What a pleasant surprise and resolution for Laura!

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We often place limits on how our issues can be resolved and how our desires can be manifested. Our logical mind can come up with some possibilities, but there are possibilities far more optimal that your logical mind can not fathom. In focusing on only the logical possibilities, you place limits on your array of possibilities, excluding the more optimal ones. You may attempt to control your situation in efforts to force a particular outcome that your logical mind can comprehend. By giving your logical mind too much power in this way, you can become your own worst enemy. 

When there is something that you desire to heal or manifest in your life, and you send out your intention with harm to none as a part of your request, solutions that may have been beyond the scope of your logical mind can come back to you. 

When you set an intention for something you want to heal or manifest, don’t follow your request with your limits as to the only logical ways you will accept assistance with the process. Send your request for what you are desiring, relinquish control over the outcome, and be open to the possibility that everyone’s needs can be met in the process. Then see what comes back in return. If fear and trust issues come up in your process, it would be important for you to address them and not ignore them, or you could manifest what you are fearing. This is where the simple can be complex and where the realm of possibilities that the logical mind can fathom may feel safer. If Laura had not addressed her fear when Mark (her significant other) had showed interest in her, she would not be married to him today. Expand your realm of possibilities responsibly by taking responsibility for any emotions that come up during your process. Explore the possibilities that are presented to you, and don’t forget that your feelings matter.

Forgiveness

The mistakes you have made along the way that have manifested financially don’t have to put a damper on your future. If you believe that you must suffer for your mistakes, be punished for them, and have to make up for them, then this is the way it will be for you. But if you can learn from your mistakes and forgive yourself for the reasons why they happened, things can shift a little more magically. When only accepting resolutions that your logical mind can provide, beliefs that mistakes must be paid for and penance must be offered might be demonstrated through your experience. If this is what you have been taught by your family, church and/or schooling, I recommend you re-visit this area of your belief system to see what beliefs have been seeded into you—not for the purpose of blaming others, but for the purpose of learning and understanding. 

People sometimes hand down beliefs because they think their beliefs will be helpful. Most people don’t even think to explore the validity of their myths. You can meditatively thank people for their efforts and give them their beliefs back, indicating that they don’t work for you. Be aware of how giving back their beliefs makes you feel. If you feel guilty, are angry or fear you would hurt their feelings, this would need to be addressed. A false sense of loyalty toward a loved one can keep you stuck. Forgive yourself for accepting a myth and forgive the person who gave it to you. Don’t forget to replace your old myth with a new one that makes sense to you.

If you believe that it will take you two years to get out of debt, then it probably will. If you believe in spontaneous healing, then it can happen instantaneously. The same goes for physical healing. If you believe it takes two weeks to get over a cold, then it will. If you believe that your cold is a messenger, and on receiving the message you can instantaneously release the messenger and be done with the cold, then it will be done as soon as you get the message. 

Forgive those from whom you have adopted or inherited your myths and forgive yourself for continuing to put them into practice. Meditatively give back what no longer serves you, process the feelings it has created, and replace it with myths that hold everyone’s best interests at heart with harm to none.

Conclusion

When your messages build to the point of financial crisis, they are more difficult to heal because they have become more complex. What appear to be failures, can be turned into successes when you take the time to heal and learn from them. In taking the time to heal and learn, you are not likely to re-create a crisis in that area in the future because you are not the same person. If you go down the road toward a crisis with financial essence in the future, what will come to the surface is what you have learned, and what you have learned will help you to change direction. 

If an issue has surfaced in the financial arena, take some time to explore it from a healing perspective. It could be a symbol for your value, representative for issues around safety and security, a false sense of loyalty issue or indicate something else uniquely significant to you. The physical manifestation is your heads-up to go deeper. Your messenger is speaking to you a little more urgently by the time it gets to this point. Forgive yourself for ignoring, denying or being blind to the whispers that came first and don’t wait for the crisis. Then ask your inner guidance for some help in identifying the message that your financial issue has for you. Entertain the possibility that your financial issue is a symbol for something lacking in yourself, an obstacle to what you really want, or helping you to identify a myth that no longer serves you. 

Don’t allow your logical mind, alone, to control the resolution of your problem. Your logical mind may think, for example, if people have their hands out when you have money, that not having money and being able to show empty pockets, would be a solution. That would be a means to control your situation, but there are no opportunities for healing or growth to go with it, and it will leave you broke. Confronting your uncomfortable feelings around being asked for money can lead the way to healing, growth, sustained financial success, and loving ways of saying, “No.” 

At the completion of your healing process, thank the financial issue for all you have learned about yourself because of it and let it go. I recommend that you make a promise to yourself and ask for your inner guidance’s help to learn more elegantly in the future by listening to the whispers before they build to crisis proportions. 

Finances matter. Issues in the financial arena should not to be taken lightly or dismissed. They are important messengers on your journey toward self-discovery and inner peace. 

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Dr. Trish Whynot is a Holistic Counselor and Doctor of C.O.R.E. Education. She utilizes meditation, aromatherapy and crystals in her alternative approach to eliminating the root cause of problems. She experiences life as an amazing journey and assists those ready to view their lives from a healing perspective. Private appointments available via phone or in person at her Middleton, MA office. Call 978.314.4545 or visit www.holisticoncepts.com or www.TrishWhynot.com for information. 

All information in this newsletter is based on the opinion and experience of the practitioner. It is the responsibility of the reader to only take what makes sense to them. This information is not meant to be used as a substitute for medical diagnosis, treatment or cure of an illness.