Prayer
Empties Me Into Fullness
by M. Dennis Paul, Ph.D.
A monk sat down to pray one evening only to be disturbed by the croaking
of many frogs. Every attempt he made to disregard the noise met with
failure and a growing anger. Finally, he shouted, "Stop all this
noise! I am trying to pray!"
To his surprise, the noise abated. Not only
did the frogs cease their croaking, but all the creatures of the land fell
silent.
Suddenly, an inner voice made its presence
known to the monk. "Perhaps God finds the creatures’ voices
pleasing…as pleasing as the silence of your prayers."
"I find it hard to believe that God
finds the dreadful croaking of frogs pleasant," thought the monk. The
inner voice persisted, "Why would He then create their voice?"
The monk decided to discover why. He bade
the creatures to again speak and they obeyed. The air was filled with the
sound of creatures singing.
The monk listened intently. Suddenly, he
realized that if he did not resist the sounds they actually enhanced the
silence of the night. The monk’s prayer became one with the sounds and
he was delighted that he had discovered what it truly means to pray.
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There was once a king who offered a prize
to the painter of the best painting representing peace. Many artists
submitted their work but only two captured the king’s eyes.
One was of a calm lake—a perfect mirror
for peaceful towering mountains all around it. Overhead, a blue sky with
billowy white clouds. Everyone who viewed it felt it was the perfect
picture of peace.
The other picture also had mountains but
these were rugged and bare. Above was an angry sky from which hard rain
fell and lightning flashed. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a
foaming waterfall. This did not appear peaceful at all.
The king, however, spotted a tiny bush
growing in a crack in the rock behind the waterfall. In that bush was a
nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water sat the mother bird
in her nest. Perfect peace.
The king chose the second painting and
awarded the prize to its painter. The king explained, "Peace does not
mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work.
Peace means to be in the midst of all this and still be calm in your
heart."
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A woman dreamed that she had walked into a
shop and found God behind the counter.
"What do you sell here?" she
asked. God replied, "Anything your heart desires."
Hardly daring to believe what she was
hearing, she thought carefully for a moment and then uttered, "I want
peace of mind and love and happiness and wisdom and freedom from
fear." She paused and then added, "But not just for me. I want
it for everyone in the world."
With a big smile on his face, God replied,
"I believe you have the wrong idea, ma’am. We do not sell fruit
here…only seeds."
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Many of us have learned, from early in
life, to pray for the things we want. We have been told that God creates
miracles and answers our prayers. I am sure that some will admit they have
prayed for wealth or power at some time in their lives. Some have, no
doubt prayed for a shiny new bike or a very special doll. And some may
have prayed that their parents would get along or get back together.
Certainly, there are many other things which have been requested through
prayer. How often, then, has disappointment come when those prayers were
not fulfilled?
Many have prayed for peace in the world...an
end to war and poverty. Daily, prayer is made seeking this fulfillment.
Again, how much disappointment comes when daily we see more fighting both
abroad and at home? When we see children and parents struggling for
food, shelter, and clothing…both abroad and at home?
When we pray in such fashion, what really
is occurring? The answer is that we have separated ourselves from
the universe and are expecting God to alter his creation to suit our
picture of how it should be. We deny the greatest miracle…ourselves. We
are declaring ourselves helpless in the face of the universe as it is and
are asking that the universe suddenly cease being so.
Picture billions of people praying to God
for Him to change his creation. How His ears must ring! Such noise!
Now picture a distraught God asking,
"Why, if they so regard me, do they feel that my creation is not
perfect? I have given them the greatest miracle and yet they want
more."
We pray that things be done outside
ourselves. We seek fulfillment from without.
What would happen if suddenly there were no
more war and no more poverty? Would we truly be fulfilled? I suggest
that we would be as empty inside as we are when praying for such
fulfillment.
How then shall we pray and what shall we
pray for?
Will it throw you out of balance if I say, "Pray for
emptiness."? How about if I say, "Pray to lose this self
separate from the universe."?
There are two definitions which apply to
emptiness in this message. The first, referring to our separation from the
universe, is one of helplessness. The second refers to clearing ourselves
of distorted and helpless thinking and opening ourselves up to our true
nature. A vessel can be empty and closed or it can be empty and ready to
be filled. Too, a vessel can be filled and closed or it can be filled and
ready to spill forth its contents. And now, the confusing concept. A
vessel can be both empty and full at the same time. What I am saying is
that when we empty ourselves of our negative thoughts and emotions we
suddenly realize how full we are of positive thoughts and feelings.
And so, we pray to empty ourselves of those
thoughts and emotions which separate us from the universe and suddenly, we
realize our true, positive nature. Suddenly we no longer feel empty.
Suddenly we begin to act in harmony with the universe. And suddenly, we
begin to realize peace within ourselves and we begin to radiate peace
around us. Suddenly, we begin to recognize the wealth that does exist in
the universe and we begin to share our awareness with others.
Suddenly, we realize that God, or the
universe, is perfection...harmony. And we realize that as we change from
within, we begin to answer all those prayers we expected to come about
from without.
As the above stories remind us, the
greatest noise preventing us from prayer is the noise within our own
minds. Peace is found through practicing hard work and calmness in the
face of trouble and turmoil. We are the seeds of all that we reap. And we
are the greatest miracle.
(Please be aware that while I use the words, God, He, Him, etc. in some of
these writings, this is only for the purpose of writing. My personal
practice does not identify a distinct god or goddess nor does it separate
any concept from ourselves. My practice identifies most strongly with Quan
Yin, who presents as both masculine and feminine, and represents Healing,
Compassion, and Mercy.)
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