Grief As A Sacred Space part 1
by Laura Scott, Psychic, Spiritual Teacher and Channel for Healing
To Read Part 2
One of my beloved friends is getting ready to leave his body, and
transition to The Other Side. It is a sacred time that permeates the rest
of 'daily life ', and creates a natural space for reflection and sharing.
You see, folks often forget that no psychic or medium is exempt from the
challenges of living life. We don't get a 'pass' card when it comes to
dealing with the tough stuff. Just like your car mechanic can still
have car trouble, your plumber can have bad pipes in their house, or
for that matter, your Doctor—who is neither exempt, nor excused, from
any of life's illnesses or dis-eases. Like all of you, that
means when someone I love prepares to leave the earth plane, I grieve.
Knowing that life exists after death and being able to communicate with
those on The Other Side is a wonderful gift! But in no way does it
exempt me from dealing with the natural stages of earthly grief, be it the
emotional toll, the physical loss, or just coping with the understanding
that it takes time for Life, in It's Infinite Wisdom, to reorganize the
vibrational shift so that the loss of a loved one is not so acutely sharp.
It takes time to adjust to the communication shift, and for the physical
loss to heal. And even for the 'enlightened,' there are 'growing
I have found in times like these, where I am fortunate enough to see this
as the sacred time it is, that rituals can play a big factor in coping
with the upcoming changes life has in store. I clear my schedule of
unnecessary stuff. It's amazing what's non-essential when you are down to
slivers of time with someone you love. I take extra care of myself by
staying hydrated, eating healthy, and getting lots of extra rest whenever
possible. I make an added effort to be kind, gentle and understanding with
myself. I allow extra time for meditation and prayer, so that Grace can
come in when I am not looking. I do these things because they are an
important part of the process of how I cope and heal in sacred times. So
that when I look at my friend, dreaming often of The Other Side, I don't
twist and cajole Life into granting them a physical extension that would
only serve me.
Even with the gift of insight, I can't know the precise number of seconds,
minutes or hours my friend and I have left together. And, in truth, I
wouldn't want to. I liken this time to being an experienced cook: I
know by the smells in the air, and by looking through the window on the
oven door when something appears to be almost done. None of us really
controls how fast the yeast rises, or the bread browns. We anticipate, and
make ready the kitchen by locating potholders and putting out the cooling
rack; tidying up the dishes. Sometimes, things are just done early, and
other times, we patiently, knowingly, gratefully, adjust the timer for an
additional 15 minutes.
With the extra time, I am planning a celebration ceremony for my friend's
transition. So that we can affirm what a great life he had, and honor our
understanding that he has gone on to a wonderful, exquisite place. We will
meet again. He is just taking an earlier train, to a place we are all
going, that's all. And when my time comes, he will be standing at the
platform to welcome me there.
So that's my best advice for dealing with a time like this: Focus on
staying present, and relishing this sacred space for what it is. Don't
waste the sunny days complaining about the rainy ones. Ultimately, we will
all make the same transition. And we will appreciate those around us in
that sacred time who are calm, gentle, and understanding of the process of
it all. Those who are able to be present, be it physically, emotionally,
spiritually, or psychically—despite their fears—can bring comfort.
They help to make the natural bodily transition a time of peace and grace.
Laura Scott is an internationally renown psychic, spiritual teacher and channel for healing. She is the author of
The Complete Idiot's Guide to Divining the Future, and creator of the
Ancient Stardust Directional Cards and the Ancient Stardust Progress
Journal. Her mission is to help people with the work of the soul and provide insight on their life journey.
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