Ask Psychic Medium Laura Scott (Issue #6)
by Laura Scott

Dear Laura,

I have been having marriage problems for some time now but can't seem to pluck up enough courage to walk out, mostly because I'm worried of where my future lies.
Since having these troubles I've spoken to a medium, had a tarot reading and participated on a ouija board looking for answers. I was told by the medium and through the ouija board that an ex boyfriend was going to be coming back into my life and that we would eventually marry. At this point of time though it seems an absolute impossibility as we live on opposite sides of the world.  We are however communicating by email  and I have noticed a slight change in our talk but nothing to indicate that we will eventually end up together.  I am so confused right now and wish I'd never been given this info as I can't seem to clear my mind of those thoughts. So, my question to you is - what if anything can you see of my future as this stage?
Regards, Teresa


Dear Theresa,

Well, for starters, I see you learning not to mess with ouija boards again!   The most striking thing about your email is that you know you aren't where you are supposed to be in your marriage, but would rather stay in that familiar zone of pain rather than risk finding happiness by striking out on your own.  You think you can't leave unless another man is in the picture to shore you up.  So here's the important questions:  What happened to loving yourself enough to take care of yourself?   What happened to make you feel so devalued on your own and fearful of the future?  Why do you think you need a new man in your life in order to facilitate change? These are the bigger issues of your soul that need to be explored with a good therapist.  When you can begin to learn how to love yourself, and take care of yourself, then you will be able to make empowered decisions and attract in a healthy partner. You are worth more in life than what you are positioning yourself for.  I will be rooting for you to reach for change... because the pain of not changing is worse than the pain of change itself.

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Laura,

I have been told that when a loved one leaves this world in a violent matter, they may not make it to the other side until their soul is at peace.  How do I tell if they did make it to the other side?  How do I know if their soul is at peace?  I am having a hard time with a recent tragedy in my immediate family and have so many unanswered questions. Thank you,   Barbara


Dear Barbara,

I am sorry for your loss.  You have been through a lot.  I don't know who told you that info, but it is rather incomplete.   When souls leave the body, be it through natural circumstances, tragedy, violence or otherwise... a myriad of things can happen.  Some souls will choose to 'leap out' before the actual event of death, only to watch it in a detached  way--like watching a movie unfold, before heading into the tunnel. Others move directly to the tunnel with great clarity and purpose.  Still others may move through the tunnel feeling  peaceful, but confused about how they got there.  There are many options. Some souls may choose not to enter the tunnel immediately and remain earth bound.

Take heart Barbara, your loved one was swiftly moved through the tunnel and into the cocooning chamber for healing on The Other Side.  During that time, they are placed under careful guidance and protection. You can help by sending them prayers of love and peace ...AND by knowing that they have been released from any suffering and are in a truly wonderful place.   Your healing and peaceful state of mind will make their healing that much more complete.

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Dear Laura,

My husband and I have been separated for almost four years now.  He has lived with his girlfriend for three years and they have been having problems for some time now and are seeking counseling. He and I are great friends and he calls me almost everyday although he & don't think we could work things out as far as living together and his girlfriend has a problem with our friendship. My daughter tolerates the girlfriend but the girlfriend insists on attending every event with her father including our (mine & my daughters) hobby of riding and showing horses and neither of us want that which is causing problems in her fathers relationship with his girlfriend when he wants to spend time with us at the ranch.  We are civil with his girlfriend but we do not want to share every event with her too.  What should I do to help the situation?
Dena L.


Dear Dena,

All parents, especially estranged ones, need to spend time alone, one-on-one with their children.  That means there will be events where your daughter and her father get to privately connect, and you will not be included.  The issue here is really between your estranged husband and his girlfriend.  He needs to be clearer about which invitations are extended to him, and which invitations are extended to him and her as a couple.  You can help do your part by being fair when extending those invitations, and making sure to extend some of both.  The rest is up to him.

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Dear Laura,

I recently experienced the loss of my dear brother.  Like Bob Olson, a real skeptic and one who usually reasons away strange occurrences, I found myself experiencing a strong sense of his presence.  Telling myself that it was grief that was causing these feelings, I tried to put them away.  However, they began to occur more frequently as time passed, not less.  I began researching the spirit world, through books, internet and finally had a couple of readings with mediums.  In my search, I began to feel pulled to connect with my own spirit guides and have begun meditation exercises to do so.  I pray for clarity and the discipline to help me in my endeavor and I am working on patience but know that lessons in trust are coming!  Patience is a hard one for me but trust - well that one scares me!  I know that it must be a process but would love to know what you suggestions you could offer.
Love and Light,
Vikki


Dear Vikki,

First, my condolences over your loss.  Good job using this event as a catalyst for personal growth and learning.  Your brother is very proud of you.   Continue to use this sacred time as a time of being present. Keep a journal of the synchronistic events unfolding around you.   Use a Zen approach:  Observe and be present.  Never force.  Remember, you do not have to hold the sun up in the sky, or the stars for that matter.  You do not personally control the tides.  Nature shows us over and over again how to have faith in the larger scheme of things.  Everything is happening exactly on time.

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Dear Laura,

I have been interested in psychic mediums and have been following most of their work.  I have just been wondering that when we cross over are we able to see and experience the whole picture as in outer space or are we limited to earth?  Thank you, Christine T.

Hi Christine,

Thanks for your question.  Yes, we have access to the whole  picture and then some. Once we are no longer bound by the limited earthly mind...literally, the sky is the limit.  Want to 'live' in a house?  picture it, and click, you've got it!  Interested in attending the lectures in Sector 5?  Whoosh, you are there.   Someone you love getting married on earth?  Presto, you are in the viewing room celebrating.   Feeling social?  zap, you are off in a large area communing with friends.   Pretty awesome, eh?

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Dear  Laura,

I am having a huge problem with my family. My family is having problems taking me seriously and respecting my boundaries. I recently gave birth a few months ago and against my expressed concerns,  my relatives exposed my child to a contagious, incurable disease.  When spoke up, they twisted it around and made it my fault. I think they owe me an apology, buy they keep telling me I should apologize to them. They often say mean things and try to pick fights with my husband. They act nice and invite us over and then verbally abuse us and wish harm on us and our child while we are there. They are my family but I don't think I should be subjecting my daughter to this. Do you have any idea what I should do?
 Worried about baby in MA


Dear Worried,

This is about a whole lot more than a baby--this is about coming to terms with a selfish, manipulative and harmful family. Apology, shmology. It doesn't matter.   What does matter is that you have a right to take care of yourself and protect yourself from harmful situations. And as a parent, it is your primary job to protect your child from harmful situations. Period. Being spiritual does not mean that we become doormats! It's time to take a deep breath and see your family for who they really are. Professional counseling can help support you in staying clear and strong,  and to learn how to stop expecting them to change.  Honey, when people show you who they are, believe them!   I wish you  much courage, clear strong boundaries, and plenty of joyous, healthy years of parenting ahead.

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Dear Laura,

My dog knows when I am coming home even though it is a different time each day.
He waits for me at the window. How could he know? Is he psychic?  Stacey Jill

Dear SJ,

Yes, but in a different way than us humans are. Companion animals are very sensitive to our energy.  There was a great study done on this a couple years back, documented on film for TLC, that at the precise moment that a pet owner would decide to leave work, their beloved dog would go and begin a sitting vigil by their front door awaiting their arrival home.  This held true no matter what day, and even when the owner changed their schedule over the course of several days and continued to vary their return time.  Each and every time, the dog promptly got up and started their vigil as if on invisible cue at the same time as the owner decided to leave work.  They showed this from several  different scenarios with different owners and different animals.  It was fascinating.   We need to give our animal companions more credit for what they  know through our vibratory shifts and intuitive pathways.  They aren't called God's Creatures for nothing!

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Dear Laura,

My husband is diagnosed as having Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and is on several medications.  I find it hard to reconcile with his condition.  I don't feel it is right to make his condition the center stage of our lives.  Have I been doing the right thing?
Will he eventually get better?  Thank you.  Hashima


Dear Hashima,

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a serious and legitimate medical condition.  The degree to which someone with PTSD is suffering can greatly affect their daily plans and overall quality of life.   This condition is no less legitimate than diabetes, and you wouldn't roll your eyes and impatiently tap your foot while waiting for a diabetic to check their blood sugar would you?  Or serve meals to deliberately  jeopardize their health would you? Or yell at them to start making their own darn insulin?  Well, I certainly hope not!  I suggest you speak with your husband about setting up a plan for how he feels and what he needs from you.  For instance, if he is having a good day and wants to venture out, perhaps you can shift your plans and enjoy it together. If he is having a rough day, and cannot keep plans, but feels comfortable being alone, you will need to know this so that you can make plans to head out without him.  If he doesn't want to be alone, and you need some time away, hire a visiting nurse or companion to stay with him.  Enjoy him on his good days, and love him on his not so good days.  Be patient and gentle.  Added stress doesn't help anything, especially those suffering from PTSD.  In addition to his condition, the medications also come with their own sets of side effects.  This is what 'for better, or for worse' means.  You need to find a support group or therapist for yourself so that you can release some of the growing hostility and resentment you are having.  Being supportive and kind is not the same as being enabling or babying.  Nor is it being hostile and resentful.  A good professional will help you sort that out.  Praying for patience and understanding will help bring you peace. Good luck friend.

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Laura Scott is an internationally renown psychic, spiritual teacher and channel for healing. She is the author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Divining the Future, and creator of the Ancient Stardust Directional Cards and the Ancient Stardust Progress Journal. Her mission is to help people with the work of the soul and provide insight on their life journey.

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