Psychic Medium Laura Scott (Issue #3)
by Laura Scott
Every year for the holidays, I feel pulled in a million directions.
My in-laws and my parents all expect us to make the rounds and visit them,
the kids have school activities, we have work parties to attend, shopping,
cooking, it just all gets to be too much! What I really
want to do is run away for a few weeks and not look back. I feel
like I am letting everyone down, but my heart is just not in it.
Every year at this time I see normally sound and reasonable people go a
Just why are we putting so much pressure on ourselves?... Because we
are fed a steady diet by the media that is brainwashing us with
commercialism, and the idea that if our lives don't look like a Hallmark
card then there must be something wrong with us. Women are
especially sensitive to the pressures of this hype because traditionally
we are in roles to serve others. But how we can appreciate any of it
when we are so busy rushing around just to get it all done?
The pressure is enormous, unhealthy and unrealistic.
It's time for you to stop running on auto pilot take back your own power.
Start today, turn off the TV and make a list of what is important and
meaningful to you about the holidays. Search your heart for some
alternatives to the chaos. If too much traveling is a problem,
consider having all the parents and in-laws over to your place.
One family I know moved the big gathering into the summer months, so that
they can have more stillness at home during winter. Another goes on
a family vacation to someplace warm and sunny every December.
Another puts names in a hat and has a $10 spending limit. Still
another gave up the big gift exchanging and donated the money to a
charity. Another spends it serving food together at the homeless
shelter. Another goes for a family hike, and another goes to the
Use that same creative energy that normally helps get you through it all
in a whole new way--to redefine the meaning in it. Sit with your
partner and children and explain to them that you love them, but this year
you are going to do things in a new way. Ask them for their
willingness as their best gift in return to you. Ask them to
help participate, and to help figure out what is meaningful and important.
Perhaps they can contribute in the pared down preparations by taking
on some of the tasks that you used to do alone.
I hope you can love yourself enough to be willing to change this.
When you do, the real meaning of this time of year will come through.
And remember, none of us needs a yearly holiday to show those around us
that we love and appreciate them. We can do it anytime! A
heartfelt note can have ten times the meaning of anything you can buy at
the mall. Think less stuff, more sustenance. Good luck!
Since last September, I have been wanting to leave my corporate job (of 12
years) and start my own small business. This would mean giving up
the success and title I have achieved, the security of regular paychecks,
benefits and health insurance--at least initially. My wife and
friends think I am crazy to want to leave my so-called prestigious
position for less. I feel if I don't try I will never know. Do
you have any thoughts?
I have a great cartoon hanging in my office that has the image of a big
shot business man, sitting behind a very large desk, talking to an
underling. The big wig says, "When I was little, all I wanted
to be was a rich and powerful business man. Now that I am one, what
I really want to be is a fireman." This sounds a lot like
you. All I can say is that if your heart is calling you then I truly
hope you can find a way to heed it soon, before the price of not heeding
it becomes too high. Sit down with your wife and show her your
business plan. Convince her why it will work, and what the time
frame is for doing do. Help her to understand why your spirit needs this.
I wish you much success!
I just lost my much loved and best friend Charlie after 11 years. I miss
him very much and am having a hard time dealing with the sense of loss.
I don't know where to turn, since everyone seems to think, "oh, it
was just a dog!!" as if it shouldn't matter that much...I keep
looking for him...I know he will come back in some way, and that I have to
let him go...I am just lost.....
"Borrowed from heaven for just a short while some folks think you
can't see an animal smile but us we know different 'cuz we've felt their
love a small slice of heaven, sent from above." © Laura Scott
I know your pain. There is no such thing as "just a dog"
or "just a cat", or even the phrase "just a"... when
it comes to an animal being's unfailing love, companionship, honesty and
support. Shame on all those who try to minimize your grief.
The heart knows no bounds in it's capacity to love, and does not
discriminate to whom or how it will apply it.
Please be very gentle with yourself as you go through the grieving
process. I suggest getting a bottle of Rescue Remedy and keeping it
close at hand. If you can't find a few friends who will let you talk
openly and freely share your grief, you may do well with a counselor, or
an on-line chat room where you can connect with other kindred spirits who
are grieving the loss of a beloved companion.
Grief takes as long as it takes. There are no time-lines or rules.
Companion beings like Charlie often take on emotional roles to us as
surrogate parents, or surrogate children or brother or best friend to us.
In our often crazy, fast paced world, sometimes the unfailing love of a
pet is the only thing that truly makes sense! The fact that you have
"merely" lost a pet in some folk's eyes is in no way relevant to
the depth of your grief. All life matters equally to the Universe.
The heart does not distinguish levels of love and loss.
Some people feel that getting a new pet right away is best, while others
would strongly disagree. Animals are superb healers and teachers in
their own right. They give us much and ask for little in return.
They don't have stuff to 'keep working on' so it is rare that they need to
come back. Your grief shows that you have a great capacity to love,
and Charlie's passing, as god-awful as it feels right now, should begin to
ease with time.
In the meanwhile, when you are ready to share your space once more, there
are many eager animal beings already here on earth anxiously awaiting the
opportunity to assist, serve and support you on the next part of your
journey. I hope you will eventually allow yourself to share that
capacity for love again, and that you understand that this will never
diminish the love that you had for Charlie. He filled entire
chapters of your life, and is permanently woven into the ongoing tapestry
that is you. Indeed, I wish you the rich good fortune of knowing
many many more Charlie's when the time is right. In the meantime, I
send you peace and a big hug.
Why am I not having any success attracting the "right" type of
create a lasting relationship? When I do find someone and we are
mutually attracted, he is not the type to enter a long term
relationship. Lately I just don't seem to be able to meet/attract
anyone. Is this the way it's meant to be or am I doing something
The words we speak and the thoughts we think have a lot of power.
Therefore, if you want to attract 'the "right" type of person to
create a lasting relationship' I suggest that you get serious about
putting down on paper what exactly that means to you. Be specific.
List what is important to you, include complimentary qualities, traits,
goals and integrity points. Once you have done this, your homework
is to read it out loud daily, and watch what you say during the rest of
the day. If you focus on what you are not getting, you will actually
create more of it. Shift your focus by affirming, "I am now
attracting the perfect person to me. I am worthy of a lasting
relationship, and I accept it now. I am willing to love at another
level." Be patient, and know that in the mean time, you
are still a valid, productive, contributing and integral part of the
planet. Focus on being whole all by yourself, and live your
life fully and completely in the meanwhile.
Laura Scott is an internationally renown psychic, spiritual teacher and channel for healing. She is the author of
The Complete Idiot's Guide to Divining the Future, and creator of the
Ancient Stardust Directional Cards and the Ancient Stardust Progress
Journal. Her mission is to help people with the work of the soul and provide insight on their life journey.
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