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Ask Psychic Medium Laura Scott (Issue #15)
by Laura Scott

 

Dear Laura,
My lover died a little over two years ago. I would be ok with never dating again because I am still so in love with E., however, to get my children and my friends off my back about "going on with my life" I agreed to go out with R. R. is like the perfect mate (for someone else) and he is aware that I will never love him because of E. I apologize to E. daily for cheating on him. R. is getting extremely attached and I don't want to break his heart. Now what?? How do I break it off with R., or should I? If I do, I go back to harassment about "getting over" E. Quite frankly, I enjoy the sex with R. and I can tolerate his presence on a limited basis. I am perfectly aware that I am using him (I go through guilt about that daily). Bottom line - Use R., make him happy, my family satisfied or go back to living for the dead? Both options seem wrong.
Signed Lost love

Dear Lost,
You're right, both options are wrong. Did it ever occur to you that there may be other choices than the ones you outlined? Ones that don't involve using R., stuffing your own feelings, or living for your family? Your judgment has been a bit clouded and you haven't been thinking straight...it happens...both in grief, and without. 

So let's start with a deep cleansing breath.
1.) You owe it to R. to break it off and be clear that you don't see a future with him. It's never a good idea to be involved with someone if you feel you can only barely tolerate their presence on a limited basis. Since R. is such 'a great guy for someone else,' set him free to find that someone else! Quit keeping him around because you think that's easier than dealing with the alternatives. It's not. 


Unless you are both 100% in agreement that your relationship will be physical only, don't have any more sex with him. Using someone for your own gratification when they have feelings for you is not a good plan. It costs your spirit a lot - far more than any physical pleasure you might momentarily gain.

2.) Tell your friends and family that you are doing the best you can and to back off. Grief is an intimate and personal thing. No two people will ever grieve the same. Catering to the pressures from your family at the expense of your own heart and spirit is never a good idea. Remember, you are still here, your journey is still happening. You have needs, you have feelings, and you have a lot of stress building up from trying to please everyone except yourself. Let your family know that you are looking for something other than what you and R. have, and be firm. If they love R. so much, then they can date him. He's going to be available.

Your family and friends mean well but they have greatly misfired. It happens. Explain to them that you are in your own process-and try as they might-no one can hit the fast forward button for you. Only you know what is right for you. Reassure them that you are working on yourself and trying some new directions. Then...

 

3.) Start tending to the unmet needs of your spirit. You said you are still in love with E. That's normal. It's okay to be open to dating, but it is your job to only date the people who are a great match for your needs. Period. And as soon as you realize someone is not a great fit for you, let them go. Check your course and keep moving forward. Remember, our needs change as we change. You are involved in a process: it's called healing. It's not a destination, it's an ongoing journey. One that will ebb and flow everyday. Do your best to understand it, respect it, and work with it.

4.) Connect with others who are only looking for companionship or friendship-new sets of friends to go to sporting events with, out to dinner with, to the movies, theatre, etc. Don't date just to silence the family masses. It's not fair to those you date, AND it's not fair to yourself or your spirit. Remember, you aren't aiming to replace E., there was only one of him. He was irreplaceable. You are opening up to new people and new experiences based on your needs right now.

5.) Get thyself to a grief support group. Network with others who have lost their partners. They may become an integral part of a new friendship circle. They'll offer support and encouragement as you stand up to your family and follow your heart. They will understand what you are going through. You need that.

6.) As impossible as it seems, there is always the chance that you will fall in love again, should the right opportunity present itself. And that will not be something you will have to 'tolerate' or 'get through.' It will be something that feels right and natural on all levels. Different, but still good.

Right now, today, you have the power to start making choices that nurture and support where you are. You are in a healing process friend, and that takes much patience and understanding. I wish you well as you discover the infinite number of options that await you. (Not just two.) Much peace to you in your healing process friend.

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Dear Laura,
Who can I contact to reach my husband's spirit, when I'm unable to pay for that particular type of service?
Thank you,
Pam

Dear Pam,
I am sorry for your loss. Try the Spiritualist churches. Often times during service messages are given freely to those attending. You may find yourself feeling drawn to one medium in particular as you sample different services and then you can inquire with them for some private assistance. You could also try approaching reputable mediums and asking if they offer hardship sessions or sessions on a sliding scale. 

There are also some great resources available for meditating and contacting your loved one yourself. The Higher Purpose CD in the Ancient Stardust Tools for Change meditation series has been drawing in loved ones from The Other Side and creating quite a phenomenon.

Whatever you decide to do Pam, go gently. Make your decisions based on your own gut instincts-not just finances-and you will get greater results. The more relaxed you can be each day, the easier it is for your loved one to make their presence felt in your life.


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Dear Laura,
I just happened on to your website as I was searching to find information about animal spirits after death. I am in the midst of grieving for my wonderful dog, Miya. I euthanised her two weeks ago as she was in so much pain from cancer. I know it was inevitable, and I had two months to ready myself. She was my heart, and I miss her terribly. When we did the euthanasia she was having a pretty good day, and so, she struggled during the procedure. I was with her and told her how much I loved her, but I fear her spirit was not ready to leave yet. I asked her to let me know she was all right but have not felt anything of her presence. I am struggling with the loss and with my choice. Is this all there is? Do I simply need to move through the grief and accept the loss of this companion? Any thoughts would be welcome. S.S.

Dear S.S.,
I understand your pain. But euthanasia is not a bad thing S. You made the right choice, the kind choice, and you did the right thing for Miya. She was suffering in her overall quality of life and indeed, her pain was very great. Even if you had waited until the last possible moment to help her cross over she still would have struggled. She loved you very much and was quite aware of you and worried about whether or not you would be okay. Talk about great love!

Miya's spirit is joyous and alive - bounding free in the meadow on The Other Side. She looks youthful and full of life. She is free from suffering. Animals do not have the same type of life review as us humans and quickly appear on The Other Side in their most glorious state.

Please get yourself some Rescue Remedy (any good health food store) and take it regularly. It will help you with dealing with the grief and getting you over the shock and loss of your beloved, special friend. We are never prepared to lose someone we love. The most important thing to focus on is that Miya is no longer suffering. She is at peace. Keeping her here for even another day would have only been selfish.

Remember Miya in her good days, in the history of you and the chapters she shared. She is a permanent part of your life tapestry. A wonderful part. Move past her final days and deeper into the rich history you shared.

Our pets and companion animals love us unconditionally, and we grieve the loss of them every bit as much as we grieve for our human companions. Be gentle with yourself. You did the best you could for her; you did right by her.

In time, I hope you will be ready to have a new experience, a new chapter or two with a different animal companion. Miya will be happy to see you giving once again when you are ready. And I'm sure she'll make her presence felt as she walks through your home and shows the new dog some of her old tricks! Big hug to you S.S.

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Laura Scott is an internationally renown psychic, spiritual teacher and channel for healing. She is the author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Divining the Future, and creator of the Ancient Stardust Directional Cards and the Ancient Stardust Progress Journal. Her mission is to help people with the work of the soul and provide insight on their life journey.

Ask Laura is a published advice column imparting spiritual advice for yourself, your neighbor, pets, family matters, dreams, work situations, health, relationships, and more. Questions are evaluated for use on an overall basis for helping others. If you have something that you would like to ask Laura, send your brief question to: AskLaura@ancientstardust.com.

For questions in which a response would be relative only to you, we strongly recommend that you schedule a private reading by calling Laura's office toll free at 1-866-897-1504. For more info about Laura, private sessions, classes, retreats and more, visit her website at www.ancientstardust.com, or www.bestpsychicmediums.com/Laura-Article.htm

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