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New Children Have Arrived: Caring For Your Indigo Child
by Julie Rosenshein, LICSW
Many have asked; what or who are these Indigo Children and how can I help
my child, my grandchild, or the student in my class who seems to be one?
Indigo Children are head strong and heart smart. They do not want to do it
your way, and often have creative or non- conformist ways of doing things.
Many are labeled ADD/ ADHD because of their tendency for activity,
inattention and doing things fast. Some have past life recall, trouble
sleeping, night terrors, and can “see” or hear things at home
especially at night. They have extreme emotional, physical, and spiritual
sensitivities that make them “fussy” eaters, “different” from
other kids in their class and avoidant of loud noise, people’s energy,
and touch sensitive. Some days they will be happy, and then, after being
around other children, they can have a huge emotional meltdown, angry
outburst, or tantrum.
Many Indigos suffer from depression, anxiety,
hyperactivity or insomnia because of their extreme sensitivities and
inability to process the energy in their body which fluctuates even when
they are staying away from the foods (wheat products, sugar, excessive
dairy, and fruit juice), chemicals and fluorescent lights that they cannot
tolerate. Their interior world is frustrating since they are such wise
souls in such young bodies and cannot make all the choices they want to in
a day; they would rather balk at the system then follow it. Many
times an Indigo will not want to eat very much, will stay up until past
even your bedtime, and will not want to be told anything different by you
or anyone else. They are fast learners when they are interested in the
subject matter, and will zone out or refuse to learn about anything they
are not interested in. They have wise deep eyes, cannot tolerate lies,
authoritarian rules, or inauthenticity. Many have been labeled with
Learning Disorders from the school they are in due to their “poor”
reading skills, right brained dominant learning style or “delayed”
speech. Truth be told, they would rather use their intuitive or telepathic
abilities then talk, and already know what you are going to say before you
say it. How do you explain that to the Principal, teacher.
If this all sounds daunting and negative, take heart. Along with their
extreme sensitivities come a host of beautiful and world changing
qualities. Your Indigo is probably spiritually blessed with psychic gifts
and good fortune of being able to see Angels, deceased loved ones, fairies
or connect to the heart of animals and people. If someone is hurt or left
out, this child will be the first to be able to comfort or make a new
friend. Their brilliance will probably not shine through their report
card, but will rather be through the light emerging from their eyes, smile
or infectious laugh. Since their DNA is actually a little different than
the normal child, their charkas are actually spinning at a faster rate;
hence they have a higher vibrational frequency. If they seem to be
hyperactive or moving fast, it is because quite literally, THEY ARE. Their
third eye is highly developed which gives their aura the Indigo hue. They
are the children “of the blue ray” and have the spiritual gifts to
prove it. Their life purpose is to bring new understanding and ways of
being to the Planet and will tear down anything that stands in their way.
It is this willful and purposeful personality that our planet so
desperately needs. They have come to change society, and they will if we
can listen to them, help care for them and take their lead… So how can
we help them? Here are a few simple tips and tools:
Tip #1: Help your Indigo Nutritionally
Most Indigos are actually allergic to many of the foods they eat such as
wheat, dairy, sugar, and food dye/additives. Have your child tested by an
allergist to find out what foods need to be eliminated from their diet.
Make a game of going to the health food store and trying the wonderful
products available at the stores (i.e. substituting soy milk for regular
milk, or Stevia for regular table sugar.) Have a taste-off at home to see
which flavor of soy milk is better or if they can taste the difference
between wheat bread and rice bread. Gradually substitute and add new foods
into their diet. Try to buy organic produce and meats when possible and
limit intake of sodas (with sugar or any other artificial sweeteners) and
fruit juice unless freshly squeezed at home. Many children have dips in
their blood sugar levels which can be helped by eating mini protein based
meals throughout the day, avoiding cakes, cookies, breads, and simple
carbohydrates that give them a quick energy high followed by a low shortly
after.
Tip #2: Help your Indigo Biochemically
Many Indigos are lacking in trace minerals, magnesium, B6, C, Folic Acid,
and Zinc. Depletion of these substances has been linked scientifically to
inattention, mood swings, depression and even impulsive behavior. Find a
health care practitioner, Naturopath, or Kinesthesiologist who can
evaluate whether your child has an imbalance or is lacking in trace
minerals, vitamins or enzymes. Also try to use natural cleaning products
in your home that are purchased from health food store. Many children are
allergic to the chemicals and fragrances added to shampoo, toothpaste,
laundry detergent and soap. Avoid Sodium Lauryl Sulfate when possible.
Tip #3: Help your Indigo Environmentally
Since our environment is so full of stimulating media, electronic
appliances and fluorescent lighting which they are sensitive to, limit the
number of hours of exposure. Also, try to make your child’s bedroom free
of these electrical appliances. Do not keep electrical appliances near the
bed. (Even clocks with batteries or wires can be disruptive for a good
night’s sleep.) Put a broad- leafed plant (like Pathos) by their
bedside. The plant supplies oxygen and clears your child’s energy while
sleeping. Action figures on their shelves, bright colors, mirrors and busy
patterned linens actually stimulate their systems. Put toys away in closet
or toy chest, decorate their room in a non-primary color which muted and
relaxing for them. And establish an ongoing bedtime ritual that includes
soft music, reading or time for talking with you….Listen to them. Help
them process what went on in their day and set mini goals or wishes for
the next day.
Tip #4: Help your Indigo with their Life Purpose
Most Indigo depression is linked to the general meaninglessness they feel
if they are not connected to their higher purpose, spiritual gifts, or
interests. Did you ever notice that your Indigo can be inattentive some
times but then can get really focused at other times? In school they need
to pay attention to things they might not be particularly interested in,
but at home you can help them spend time attending to their life purpose.
Most Indigos are self directed if given the chance to be, and it is never
too early to help them get involved in the life purpose they came here
for. If they are artistic, enroll them in art school or have a fund for
new art supplies that they can work towards. If your Indigo is of the Veterinarian
type, find a shelter or local animal hospital they can volunteer at. If
you have an Indigo healer, help them work toward Reiki certificate or be
involved at one of the many holistic centers that are near you. Many of
the adolescent Indigos I work with find music to be their “thing”.
Encourage them to form a group or perform live. Many times an older Indigo
will not express interest in college, but will have a strong desire to go
to a professional or trade school which specializes in their talent.
Forget the old paradigm of schooling and help them further their knowledge
and interest with a trade school in their area of expertise.
Apprenticeship, will also become more popular again as we and the Indigos
revamp the entire educational system so that our working and our learning
is connected to our life passions, rather than being dictated by the old
“9-5” paradigm ways.
Tip #5: Try to help your Indigo Process their Energy and Feelings
Many spend a high percentage of their time sitting in school, or at
home in front of television, video games or computer. These kids need
rigorous physical exercise, nature and fresh air to balance their body and
mind. Make outdoor activities part of your weekend family plans and also
their daily weekday routine. Encourage them to meditate, practice Yoga,
karate, or team sports which are wonderful ways for them to vent extra
energy and feel great. Indigos need the same wellness services or hands on
healing that adults do. Find a Reiki practitioner, wholistic
psychotherapist, chiropractor, or acupuncturist who works with children,
or use your own angels and guides to help clear your child’s charkas.
Make time during the evening hours to listen to them and help them clear,
and process their energy and feelings. If they do not want to talk with
you, encourage them to write in a journal or speak with someone who
understands Indigos so they do not feel so alone and “different”. As
time goes on most Indigos will grow into their gifts and distinct role in
the fabric of the unfolding human evolution and consciousness, and in the
mean time…..Remember that they are kids that need our love, acceptance,
patience and FUN. They remind us to think outside the box, see our own
limitations and will force us to grow by being a mirror for us to face our
own issues and reevaluate some of our outdated parenting and teaching
skills. One thing is for sure…if we let them be our teachers while
holding a safe and boundaried container for them to grow in, they will
bring the New Age of Peace that we have been working for on this Planet
Earth!
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Julie
B. Rosenshein, LICSW is a Psychotherapist and Indigo Consultant who
works with ADD, Indigo and Highly Sensitive children and adults. She
lectures Internationally and also works as a School Social Worker in
Connecticut. Julie combines her traditional Columbia University training
with ATP Certification and training from Doreen Virtue, PhD. Ms.
Rosenshein is currently working in the New England Area with Indigo
children and families, and writing her first book. She welcomes new
clients by phone consultation or at her offices in NY, CT, MA and RI. You
can contact her at
(413) 262-1137 or jrosenshein@aol.com