FEBRUARY 2011

Editor's Blog...
The Dreaded Question In The Paranormal Field

What a lot of people don’t know about those who work in the paranormal field, for lack of a better term, is that we deal with a stigma that surrounds this vocation. I’m an afterlife investigator and psychic medium researcher, which you might think is a fascinating line of work—and it is—but anyone who works with spirits, spirit communication or the spirit world will tell you that many people get uncomfortable at the mere thought of these subjects.

One of the most dreaded questions of people who work in this paranormal field is, “What do you do for a living?” Of course, I’m talking about dealing with everyday people in ordinary life. If you’re at a Hay House “I Can Do It” conference, that’s a different story. In that venue, the afterlife is a natural conversation. But when talking to people in your home town, it’s often easier just to avoid the question than it is to say you’re a psychic medium, past-life regressionist or energy healer.

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Secrets For Sensitive People To Find Relationships That Work 
by Judith Orloff MD 

Loneliness gets to some more than others. But why it hangs on isn’t always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes. In my medical practice and workshops I’ve been struck by how many sensitive, empathic people who I call “emotional empaths” come to me, lonely, wanting a romantic partner, yet remaining single for years. Or else they’re in relationships but feel constantly fatigued and overwhelmed. The reason isn’t simply that “there aren’t enough emotionally available people ‘out there,’” nor is their burnout “neurotic.” Personally and professionally, I’ve discovered that something more is going on.  

Emotional empaths are a species unto themselves. Whereas others may thrive on the togetherness of being a couple, for empaths like me, too much togetherness can be difficult, may cause us to bolt. Why? We tend to intuit and absorb our partner’s energy, and become overloaded, anxious, or exhausted when we don’t have time to decompress in our own space. We’re super-responders; our sensory experience of relationship is the equivalent of feeling objects with fifty fingers instead of five. Energetically sensitive people unknowingly avoid romantic partnership because deep down they’re afraid of getting engulfed. Or else, they feel engulfed when coupled, a nerve-wracking, constrictive way to live. If this isn’t understood, empaths can stay perpetually lonely; we want companionship, but, paradoxically, it doesn’t feel safe. One empath-patient told me, “It helps explain why at thirty-two I’ve only had two serious relationships, each lasting less than a year.” Once we empaths learn to set boundaries and negotiate our energetic preferences, intimacy becomes possible.  

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A Trip Down the Rabbit Hole 
by Michele Marie Tate 

I'll never forget that day we got the news that my son had died in a car accident. The gut-wrenching howl that echoed from my throat sounded like a wounded animals cry. A wave of anger, pain, and disbelief overwhelmed me with the vengeance of an avalanche, crushing the life force within me.

What I didn't know then, was the surface of this pain had only been scratched and the journey ahead would be the hardest road I'd ever walked. Only now, seventeen years later, can I look back and reflect on how I survived this tragedy and personally changed through the lessons learned. 

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