Using Meditation For Spirit Communication
Bob Olson: Do you believe that we can use meditation as a method for spirit communication?
Trish Whynot, D.C. Ed.:
Trish: Anyone can meditate. My feeling is that we don’t have time
not to meditate. The higher parts of us can see our lives with clarity and the lower parts of us can be fearful. They all must be integrated for us to be whole. People spend a lot of unnecessary time unconsciously either pushing their fearful parts away or giving them decision-making authority. Giving their higher parts authority and comforting their fearful parts would enable them to move forward more quickly, consciously, and cleanly. In acknowledging and validating the parts of our self, we are able to move forward more whole. In pushing our emotions away, we push the parts of our self that hold the emotion out of the way to move forward, and in the process we become fragmented. This is where the terms “scattered” and “all over the place” came from.
Bob: Are there some people, however, who seem to be better at using meditation in this way than others?
Trish: Meditation is a vehicle for receiving Divine guidance. It is a personal experience and the information asked for doesn’t always come the way we expect it, but it always comes. People that feel it doesn’t work are
often expecting it to work for them the way it works for someone else. Your Spirituality is your own unique relationship with Spirit, not someone else’s. It is a skill that needs to be developed and does take some practice. Often, when someone begins meditating his/her answers will come after the meditation.
Bob: Can you give us some examples of how answers to our questions can come?
Trish: They come in a way that you can relate to. For instance, if you enjoy movies, your answers may come in a movie you catch on TV. If you don’t like movies, your higher self won’t communicate with you that way. The spirit world doesn’t want to make it hard for you. An insight may come while driving, in the shower, through a friend, or in a song on the radio, a headline in the newspaper, or in a book or article you are guided to. It does take practice to develop a relationship with Spirit in any form. Sometimes help can come by being guided to a practitioner. Messages can even come through a newspaper headline that brings some information to awareness for you. If you have a lot of anger and ask to be done with it, the help may come by spirit bringing people and situations to trigger your anger to bring what has been suppressed to the surface so you can address it.
Bob: Are we able to communicate with anyone in spirit?
Trish: I believe we can. Sometimes we second guess ourselves in meditation or think we are making things up. This is why it can be beneficial to initially speak to a loved one who has crossed over with the assistance of an unbiased professional. Our egos can distort the info we get if we are not a clear channel and don’t know how to develop them or get them to step aside.
If you think about it, we are always communicating with spirit. Communicating with people is communicating with spirit embodied. Communicating with spirit embodied is very similar to communicating with spirit without a body. Our egos can distort information we get on either level when we are not a clear channel. That is why everyone, at one time or another, will seek the opinion of an unbiased individual, professional or friend for clarity regarding a relationship issue. The work that I do with people is about helping them to recognize and process the stored emotions and references that charge and distort their life experiences. In this process they become clearer and now have some meditative tools to bring other issues they may have to awareness.
Bob: How about spirit guides? Are we able to communicate with our guides as well?
Trish: Yes, meditation is an awesome vehicle for connecting with our ‘wise counsel within.’
Bob: What is the difference between our spirit guides, higher self and wise counsel within?
Trish: Since our spirituality is our own unique relationship with spirit, there is more than one way to receive Divine guidance. Our higher self is a part of us that loves us unconditionally and that can see our lives with clarity. It is our connection to our Creator. Spirit guides are often looked upon as separate beings or animals with the same intent. Our ‘wise counsel within’ encompasses all the help that is available to us by going inward, our soul, most optimal future self, angels, deceased loved ones, etc. Some are more comfortable with a spirit guide that appears separate from them and others with a higher self that is a part of them. Both love us unconditionally, honor our free will, can see our lives with clarity, connect us with Divine guidance and will not interfere with our lives unless we ask.
We have many different ‘selves’, some with greater tools and some with lesser tools. Our lower selves often operate using manipulative, fear-based tools learned in childhood. Many people are operating mainly unconsciously from their lower selves. These manipulative, controlling parts would be reluctant to surrender their control in order to co-create with spirit because it doesn’t feel safe to them. As we work with our higher selves and move into higher co-creative vibrations it is necessary to comfort these fearful parts, to learn and to process what they didn’t have the maturity, vocabulary or support to process then and to integrate them back into ourselves. We can’t move forward without them, nor would we want to.
Bob: What types of questions can we ask of our guides in meditation?
Trish: Anything really, we can ask for help, clarity, insight. I don’t believe that they will tell you what the future holds because that would be interfering with your free will. They may give you glimmers, but the choices are yours to make. There is learning on every path. As you raise your vibration, the impossible can become possible and available futures will become more optimal.
Bob: What do you mean when you say raise vibration?
Trish: I absolutely agree. If you absolutely need guidance from a loved one in spirit that didn’t give good advice when physical, I’d call on their higher self for it. Otherwise I’d look elsewhere.
There are gifts for us to receive from all our relationships and it all comes to the surface when someone leaves our lives in some way, either by crossing over or by moving on without us. In receiving these gifts, we give more significance to their lives and to ours. The love will always remain and they can be with us in spirit to let us lean on that love. As we integrate the gifts we receive into the fabric of our being, the people in our lives become part of us and will guide us in that light.
Holding onto those who are attempting to move on in some way is unhealthy for everyone involved. When we depend on someone, it will be difficult to let him/her go. If we can thank them for the void they have filled for us and let them know that we will do what we can to seek help in filling it ourselves, we can be grateful for the time we were able to spend together, what we learned about ourselves from the relationship and let them go out of love.
Bob: What about difficult relationships that we had?
Trish: I think that finishing unfinished business we have with those who have crossed helps them and us to move forward. In realizing that difficult people in our lives have played a role that we requested as part of our life experience, we can forgive them more easily, freeing them and us. We have free will so we can’t decide how a role will be played out, but on a soul level, we make agreements with other souls, prior to incarnating, to challenge us to grow in some way. Sometimes this involves helping someone by contributing to re-creating pain that they chose to work on in this lifetime. There are always gifts for both parties in a relationship.
Oftentimes we get stuck here in the forgiveness process because we can’t see the purpose of a relationship. As we can see the purpose, we can see that someone who created pain for us has done his/her job perfectly. This doesn’t mean they were perfect or that we chose abuse. As an example, if we chose to understand love more deeply in this lifetime, we may choose a parent or parents that believe they are unlovable. The parent may manipulate, control and demand love, respect, etc. fearing they won’t get it otherwise. In this process we would be wounded either physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. If the parent doesn’t figure this belief out they will hand it down for you to figure out. Growing up in the absence of genuine love will help you to see the importance of it. As an adult you have a choice to accept the unlovable belief and to find your own way of trying to get others to love you or to heal your wounded self, learn from your experience and change your belief to one more suited to attract the higher level of love you now will seek. Those who believe they are unlovable are capable of hurting others and that can take the form of abuse on various levels.
This is why it is so important to teach children to love themselves and the only way we can teach them is if we heal ourselves so we can be a living example for them.
Bob: But spirit guides are different, correct? Isn't it their job to give us guidance?
Trish: I look at my relationship with my ‘wise counsel
within’ as I would any relationship that I treat with high regard. I honor, respect and cherish it and address it as more of a partnership. If you had a friend who only called you when they needed something, you may not feel very honored or respected. This is how I look at my relationship with spirit. I will seek its counsel when I need guidance, include it when creating, celebrating and having fun and express my gratitude every day for the many ways it shares with me. Our spirit guides/higher selves/wise counsel are available to help us in many ways. When I need guidance, my higher self is the one I will call on first. You know that your answer comes from spirit when the answers hold the intent for what is for the highest and best for everyone involved. They always know the best way for my wishes to take form.
Bob: So meditation seems like a great method for helping our spirit guides to assist us in life, correct?
Trish: I believe this can be a risk. I think that it is important to prepare for meditation with a loving ritual and to ask for guidance from a spirit that holds the intent for whatever is for your highest and best. My higher self is the guide I call on the most. If something doesn’t feel right, thank a spirit for coming, but send them away. You can ask your higher self or a spirit guide who you trust if this spirit holds whatever is for your highest and best and can ask what the discomfort is
Bob: What do you say to someone who might be afraid of a spirit taking over their mind or body during meditation?
Trish: If you have a fear of attracting unwanted spirits when you go inward, you may want to look at any unwanted spirits you are attracting in your physical life. People are spirit inhabiting a body. It is important to realize that whatever you are attracting is wanted on some level or you wouldn’t be attracting it. If you have trouble setting boundaries on the outside, you may want to be sure you set some clear boundaries on the inside. What you allow is your choice, inside and outside. I could do an entire interview on this topic alone. If your boundaries are blurred, I’d get some help with that first.
Bob: It seems like one would really need to believe this is possible in order to do this successfully. How much of an affect do our beliefs have on this process?
Trish: Yes. Meditative communication with embodied spirits and with spirits without a body can help us through the grief process and can help us gain a deeper understanding of ourselves, life, death and the purpose of relationships. It can also help us to let go of those we love and to feel good about it.
As with anything we are learning, I recommend some guidance initially. I wouldn’t feel comfortable telling someone how to meditate without monitoring their initial experiences. There are a lot of questions that come up for people as they learn to communicate with spirit. There should be some feedback and processing of the experience with a trained professional.
You can teach yourself and learn by trial and error and develop misconceptions in the process. I would equate it to learning to play golf. You could watch it on T.V., read books on it and rent videos, but none of these learning tools give feedback. You may develop some bad habits that will need to be unlearned, waste a lot of time and energy being frustrated, and possibly hurt yourself with incorrect form, but it can be done.
Bob: Now let's go over the proper steps toward a successful meditation for spirit communication. What is the ideal environment for this?
Trish: Music is not necessary, but soothing music can be beneficial and soften minor distractions.
Bob: So can you walk us through the steps and explain how this is done?
To prepare the body for meditation it is beneficial to go through a relaxation process, then to count down to take you to a deeper state of relaxation. Then to bring yourself to a safe place in nature, a place that is safe for you. Open all your senses to this place. Ask your higher self or spirit guide to join you here. Your higher self can take physical form to help you to relate to it. It won’t look like you or anyone that you know. Greet them as they come toward you. Here you can discuss your life and receive answers to your questions and concerns. Sometimes the answers will come at a later time, but the intention and request for help that is for the highest and best for everyone involved is requested here. This is a great place to begin asking for help and expressing gratitude. When you are done, thank them for coming and helping and come out of meditation. You will want to have a ritual for coming out of meditation such as counting to 5, then opening your eyes and taking a deep breath with a loud exhale to bring you back and ground you. Your higher self or spirit guide can be your guide for any journeying that you do.
Bob: I know that you incorporate crystals in your counseling work. Can crystals be beneficial in spirit communication?
Trish: Again, it is your own unique experience. You may hear a voice or it may be telepathic, an inner knowing, sometimes the answers come in a feeling, often times like an ‘aha,’ where something all of a sudden just makes sense.
Bob: If someone hears their own voice, how do they know the words are actually coming from their loved one in spirit?
Trish: Your negative ego can trick you, so don’t invite it into your meditation. Our ego was meant to give us information; it became negative when we gave it too much authority, when we gave it authority to interpret the information. Trust in what comes first. You can ask your higher self for confirmation or confide in a pendulum or some other form of kinesiology for confirmation.
Bob: Does it help to have someone guiding you with guided imagery or visualization? Is guided visualization at least best for some beginners?
Trish: I’d recommend 20-45 minutes. It may however be necessary to start with as little as 5 minutes if quieting your mind is a foreign concept.
Bob: How might meditation for spirit communication benefit people who are grieving the loss of a loved one?
incredible, Trish. You really know how to articulate these concepts. I
should mention to our readers that I have had two really phenomenal
experiences with you regarding meditation and crystals. They can read the
articles I wrote about those experiences by clicking on these LINKS: mediation
article or crystal reading article.
personally recommend your services based on my own experiences, and think
that anyone interested in learning how to meditate or utilize meditation
for spirit communication should give you a call. If people want to have a
session with you, how do they contact you?
Trish: They can call me at (978) 646-8995.
Bob: You can do
these session over the phone too, correct?
Trish: Oh yes, I work with people
by phone all around the country, even the world.
Bob: You also have a website, what is that address?
Trish: My website address is www.holisticoncepts.com
Bob: Thanks so much for this interview Trish.
I know I have learned a boatload of information, and I plan to read
through this interview a couple times. I’m exceptionally pleased to be
able to offer this insight to OfSpirit.com readers.
Trish: Thanks, Bob. It's been my pleasure and privilege.
Trish Whynot: (978) 646-8995, www.holisticoncepts.com