Five Rules of Happiness
by Burt Goldman
Are You Happy When Youíre Happy?
You know when youíre happy, and certainly no one has to tell you when
youíre sad. But what is it that makes a person happy?
It is important to realize, however, that what makes you happy might
depress another person. There are people, because of guilt, a feeling they
do not deserve what they have, or a feeling they will lose what they have
that makes them unhappy when they should be happy. Possessions are a poor
measure of happiness. Possessions are subjective and relative to the
individual and the individualís viewpoint. Instead, we will use a
philosophy as an example.
This philosophy is about enjoying things you like, avoiding or changing
things you do not like, and accepting what you cannot avoid or change by
the skillful use of your viewpoint. The use of this philosophy, as
embodied in the five rules, will allow you to test many problem areas in
your life and find solutions. With this philosophy, you will be well on
your way on your pursuit of happiness.
The Rules of Happiness
Pursuit of Happiness - Rule Number One: If You Like a Thing, Enjoy It.
Now that seems outrageously simple. At first you might say, ďThatís
ridiculous, of course if I like something Iím going to enjoy it.Ē But
when you stop to think about it youíll probably agree that there are
many things in life that we like but donít enjoy. The reasons we donít
enjoy things we like are (a) guilt, and (b) fear. You will not enjoy
something you like if you feel guilty after having done the thing, or if
you are fearful of the consequences of doing it.
Pursuit of Happiness - Rule Number Two: If You Donít Like a Thing, Avoid
The second rule seems simple enough, but reflect for a moment on how many
people are involved with things they do not like ó a job, a person, a
vehicle, a type of food, any one of a thousand things ó and for some
reason they donít avoid those things. ďWell, I canít avoid it. I
have to work there because I need the money.Ē Or, ďI have to be
involved with this person for many valid reasons.Ē How many
justifications can you think of for not avoiding the things you do not
like to do?
Pursuit of Happiness - Rule Number Three: If You Donít Like a Thing, and
You Cannot Avoid It, Change It.
Here again, the answer is simple: change it. But just as in avoidance we
rationalize that we need something about it ó the money, the time, the
security ó something is holding you to that particular thing if you
donít like it, cannot avoid it, wonít change it, but are still
involved with it.
Pursuit of Happiness - Rule Number Four: If You Donít Like a Thing,
Cannot Avoid It, and Cannot or will Not Change It, Accept It.
Acceptance ó now there is a catch. How can you accept something you
donít like? How in the world do you accept something that is
'unacceptable'? How do you accept a situation that youíre not happy
with? How do you accept a person that youíre not happy with? Well, you
really donít have to accept anything; you can, of course, be unhappy. If
you donít like it, wonít change it, cannot avoid it, and will not
accept it, I guarantee that you will be unhappy. There are, however, five
rules to the secret of happiness, and within the fifth lies the key.
Rule Number Five: You Accept a Thing By Changing Your Attitude Towards It.
You are the result of your viewpoints and attitudes. Everything is
relative to the person experiencing it. There are no absolutes ó nothing
is good, nothing bad, except as it relates to you. Nor is life good or
bad. Life simply is. You change those things you wish by changing your
viewpoint about them.
Your attitudes and viewpoints are all part of your mind and once you
develop the power of self mind control you will be the master of your own
attitudes and viewpoints. The Power of Self Mind Control will show you how
to go to the meditative level and using these five rules, youíll find
yourself on the right path on the pursuit of happiness. Youíll realize
why people are unhappy. Eventually it will become automatic, and youíll
find happiness a predominant state of mind. Once you realize the ease of
acquiring this emotion, you develop an entirely new scale of highs and
Unremitting happiness, of course, is not a possible or desirable state.
According to the principle of rhythm, there is always an inflow and
outflow, an ebb tide and a flood tide. Youíll always have highs and lows
ó thereís no way to avoid that. However, your highs will be higher and
your lows will be higher. Youíll then find that what is a happy state
for you might be a state of depression for someone unaware of the Five
Rules of Happiness.
above article is a beautiful chapter from Burt Goldman's latest book,
"The Power of Self Mind Control." You can learn more about his
latest book at http://www.SelfMindControl.com
Burt Goldman has also been a Silva Mind instructor teaching techniques to
make the rest of your life the best of your life. To learn about Silva
seminars near you just visit http://www.silvaultramindsystem.com