It’s
Time For Change In The Psychic Medium Industry—A Request For Your
Assistance
by Bob Olson (founder of OfSpirit.com
Magazine, BestPsychicMediums.com & BestPsychicDirectory.com)
I recently got a call
from a highly influential man who presented me with an exciting
opportunity. I was immediately enthusiastic because he and I instantly
connected, meaning that I felt we were aligned in both purpose and
principles.
He sent me a proposal in
the mail that outlined the project and all the people involved, all of
whom have impressive resumes. As I read the proposal, the whole venture
seemed like a once in a lifetime opportunity; that is, until I read that
one of the people with whom I’d be working side-by-side—which meant
that our reputations would be publicly intermingled—was associated with
a psychic hotline. This caused me to take pause.
I called the man who sent
me the proposal and learned that the person associated with the psychic
hotline had already signed a contract to be part of the project. Although
my involvement promised many potential benefits, there was no way to work
around the issue of my reputation being mixed with this other person’s.
Therefore, I regrettably had no choice but to bow out of this otherwise
amazing opportunity.
Before this experience, I
had given the psychic hotline industry little consideration. I’m
referring to those psychic telephone services where you call a 1-800 or
1-900 number to get a psychic reading while getting charged by the minute
via your credit card or telephone bill. To me, these services were never
to be taken seriously; they should be used for entertainment purposes
only, like the neon-sign psychics on the side of the road. But as I
perused the various psychic hotlines on the Internet after missing out on
this promising business venture because of them, I became gravely
concerned.
I quickly understood why
so many people are skeptical and suspicious of psychics and
mediums—including myself before I began investigating psychics and
mediums in 1999. What was most obvious was that the psychics and mediums
whom I write about on my websites have very little in common with the
psychics and mediums doing business on these psychic hotlines.
Yet it occurred to me that it’s likely that few people are aware
of the differences. So I’d like to point them out right now.
There are two very
different and distinct categories of psychics and mediums in our world.
Let’s just call them the Purposeful Category and the Entertainment
Category. My investigations into this field have led me to support and
write about the Purposeful Category in order to educate the public about
their differences from the Entertainment Category. Here is how I would
describe each one in a nutshell:
The
Purposeful Category of Psychics & Mediums
In the Purposeful
Category, there are the legitimately gifted psychics and mediums who use
their real first and last names, present themselves with a real photograph
of themselves, charge by the session so that you know ahead of time how
long the reading will last and how much it will cost, and genuinely want
to use their gifted abilities to help people in a purposeful way.
The psychics (who read
energy) in this Purposeful Category present themselves professionally, do
not ask leading questions, do not want you to become dependent upon their
guidance or advice, and offer their readings to help you confirm what your
own intuition is already telling you—thereby teaching you to trust your
own inner guidance so that you don’t need to keep returning for more
readings.
The mediums (who
communicate with spirits) in this Purposeful Category present themselves
professionally, do not ask leading questions, do not want you to become
dependent upon them for numerous readings, and primarily provide as much
evidence as possible to help you overcome your skepticism about spirit
communication and the afterlife and know (through this evidence) that your
deceased loved ones are truly communicating through this psychic medium in
order to convey messages to you.
The
Entertainment Category of Psychics & Mediums
In the Entertainment
Category, there are the psychics and mediums who basically present
themselves anonymously (fake names or first names only, often with no
photo of themselves), offer readings filled with vague generalities, ask
you a lot of leading questions, provide little or no evidence of spirit
communication, have a financial incentive to keep the reading going (by
charging by the minute), and are likely to encourage you to return for
several readings per year.
While I have pointed out
the psychic hotlines in my introduction to this writing, I want to point
out that this Entertainment Category of psychics and mediums is by no
means limited to those associated with these hotlines. There are also many
psychics and mediums who work on their own with no association to the
hotlines. Nonetheless, they too tend to mimic the standards and ways of
doing business (even how they present themselves with anonymity) as the
psychics and mediums doing business via the psychic hotlines. You’ll
know ‘em when you see ‘em, even when you visit their websites.
Below is a list of what I
consider the lower standards and outlandish business practices of the
“Entertainment Category” of psychics and mediums, which, in my
opinion, lower the image and reputation of the psychics and mediums in the
“Purposeful Category.”
Unfortunately, these
lower standards and outlandish business practices are not limited to the
Entertainment Category. I’ll be the first to admit that too many
psychics and mediums within the Purposeful Category also falter in some of
the areas I describe below. I suspect that this field as a whole has been
getting away with these inadequate standards and practices for so long
that even some of the most gifted and professional psychics and mediums
have somehow failed to recognize the absurdity in it. It’s also likely
that they never gave it much thought and are simply doing business like so
many other psychics and mediums have been doing business for years. This
is just another reason why I’m writing this piece and encouraging you,
the public consumer, to force a change by no longer being tolerant of such
preposterous ways of doing business.
Bob
Olson’s “Top 5 Areas That Need Change In The Psychic & Medium
Field”
Here is my list of the
common business practices in the psychic and medium field that need
change:
1)
Phony Names or First Names Only:
Many of the psychics, mediums, tarot readers, numerologists and
astrologers doing business via the psychic hotlines and elsewhere present
themselves with anonymity. The worst cases actually use a fake name.
However, these aren’t fake names like the witness protection program
gives you; these are blatantly false names (usually single words) that no
one would ever mistaken as a real name—often recognized as names of
gemstones and crystals or words generally found in nature or the solar
system, for example.
Obviously I’m not
saying that people don’t have first names that were inspired from
gemstones, crystals, nature or the solar system. Many people most
certainly do. My friends’ daughter’s name is Daisy. Nevertheless, for
years I have required many psychics to send me their driver’s license to
verify their real name in order to be approved for my directory, and only
one person’s driver’s license actually matched the peculiar name she
submitted because she legally had her name changed through the court
system.
My key point here is not
that these names are fake so much as these fake names have no last names.
Unless we’re talking about Cher, Pink or Prince, most people are
virtually anonymous without using a last name. And since anonymity washes
down accountability, this is why I’m against it in the psychic and
medium industry. We need more accountability, and phony names only detract
from it.
Fake names aren’t the
only problem. Equally as ridiculous are the first-name-only psychics and
mediums on these hotlines that are usually followed by a number. Let me
emphasize that they have no last names, which, once again, is precisely my
issue with it. For example, one might find a Stephan43276, Evi010065 or
Blaine234353. Can we find Evi010065 (or even just Evi) in the phone book?
How about on a census? Is this the name she used when registering to vote?
The fact is that I don’t know how many of these first names are even
real. Yes, maybe these really are their first names, but what
accountability is there in using only your first name? Just try locating
some information about me in a Google search by searching for “Bob.”
That’s my point.
With the exception of the
film and music industries, what other industry tolerates this business
practice? Who wants to do business with a business owner who blatantly
uses a fake name or first name only? Would you trust giving your credit
card number to a therapist named Milkyway with no last name? Would you
feel comfortable taking health advice from a nutritional consultant named
Sue45536? Most people I’ve asked say “No way.” Yet, sadly, thousands
of people on a daily basis trust the advice, guidance and messages with
anonymously named psychics and mediums on the psychic hotlines and
elsewhere.
2)
Phony Photographs: This
one is minor in comparison to the other 4 items on this list, but it’s
important enough to mention. I’m a stickler when it comes to putting a
photograph on your website. If I go to a website, I want to see the face
of the person with whom I’m considering doing business. But what’s
worse than having no photo at all is when someone puts up an alternate
photograph where his or her headshot should be. The psychic hotline
websites (as well as countless psychic and divination reader websites) are
riddled with photos of tarot decks, rainbows and crystal balls instead a
photo of the person offering us a reading.
Since the psychic
hotlines only do business over the Internet and telephone, having an
alternate photograph is the equivalent of my chiropractor or massage
therapist wearing a Halloween mask while doing business with me. Again, I
ask, in what other businesses are such silly practices considered
acceptable?
I’ve had psychics tell
me that they want to remain anonymous because they don’t want people in
their community to know what they do. My response to them is to suggest
that if they are ashamed of their occupation to the level where they
actually feel the need to hide their identity from everyone online, then
they’re probably in the wrong occupation.
The psychics and mediums
who are doing the most valuable work, who gain the deepest sense of
purpose from their gift, and who are most likely to make an impact on the
world with their calling, are not those who are so ashamed of what they do
that they feel the necessity to remain anonymous. In fact, those who do
try to hide their identities in this manner are negatively affecting those
who are proud of what they do because anonymity raises suspicion within a
field that is already plagued by skepticism. My advice to psychics and
mediums: Learn to be proud of your God-given ability to help people or do
something else that actually makes you proud.
3)
Pay By The Minute With No Time
Limitation: I guess the psychic hotlines feel that if people
are naïve enough to do business with someone who only has a first name
and no photograph then they are also likely to hand over their credit card
info for a reading that charges a) by the minute AND b) with no time
limit.
What do these customers
do if the reading goes on for two hours? Three hours? More? If you’ve
ever had a reading with a psychic or medium, you know how fast time
passes. It’s hard to keep track of time or worry about money when
someone’s spouting off details about your life, messages from your
deceased loved ones, or predictions about your future.
It’s not like these
pay-by-the-minute readings are cheap, either. Many psychics on these
hotlines get $2.99 to $5.99 per minute. That’s $179.40 per hour and
$359.40 per hour, respectively. And I repeat—with no time limit! Do you
think these psychics have an incentive to keep the reading going as long
as possible? Considering that their hotline companies are taking a hefty
percentage of their fee (as much as 20 to 60 percent), there’s no doubt
that the temptation is built into the pay-by-the-minute structure.
What other businesses
charge by the minute with no estimate as to how long the service will
take? Most practitioners in the Mind, Body & Spirit field charge by
the hour, and sessions are usually set at 30 minutes, 60 minutes or 90
minutes. Visit any naturopath, acupuncturist or hypnotic regressionist and
you’ll know what you’re getting and how much you’ll be paying before
you begin. Even my auto mechanic calls me with a price before he makes a
repair. This pay-by-the-minute practice does nothing but raise suspicion
and concern, and it’s unacceptable in my opinion.
With this said, not every
hotline is guilty of all 5 items on this list. I give credit to the few
psychic hotlines that offer a choice of “pay by the minute” or “pay
a set price for a set amount of time.” But they still offer the pay by
the minute option, and this is where I take issue. There are too many nice
folks out there who go with the pay-by-the-minute option thinking that
they’ll actually save money because they can stop the reading whenever
they want. That’s true in theory but less than likely when taking into
account that a) it’s difficult to keep track of time during a reading,
b) readings are engaging and therefore entice one to want to keep
listening, and c) unscrupulous psychics will be skilled at keeping callers
on the line (considering the possibility that there might be some
unscrupulous psychics out there).
4)
Testimonials Without Full Names:
Here is a practice that runs rampant throughout the entire Mind, Body
& Spirit field, and it’s regrettably accepted all too often when it
comes to psychics and mediums. Imagine this…you go to a practitioner’s
website and click on their Testimonials page. Oh, look at all the
testimonials listed. How wonderful. But wait! The testimonials don’t
have full names; instead they claim to be written by Sally J or B. Hollis.
Worse, many list only initials. How is anyone supposed to put value or
credence on a testimonial from J.K. of Massachusetts? I personally don’t
know, but this anonymous testimonial practice is more common than you
might expect.
Many psychics and mediums
(and other Mind, Body & Spirit practitioners) will tell you that they
use partial names or initials in order to protect the privacy of their
clients. My response? Did you ever ask your clients if they minded using
their full names? When I have asked this question, the answer is most
commonly “No, I wasn’t comfortable asking.”
Ironically, a lot of
clients are happy to give a testimonial with their full name attached. How
do I know? I have an entire directory of psychics and mediums that allows
the public to write reviews, but I require reviewers to include both their
first and last names. Does this stop everyone from writing reviews? No
way. There are well over a thousand reviews on BestPsychicDirectory.com,
all of which have the reviewer’s first and last names published online.
My point? If psychics and
mediums (or any Mind, Body & Spirit practitioners) simply ask their
clients for permission to print their full name, they could publish
testimonials using each client’s first and last names, thereby giving
every testimonial accountability, credibility and value. Will every
testimonial writer be willing to use their full name? Most likely not. But
without this simple practice of using full names, practitioners might as well write the testimonials
themselves. And who knows? Maybe some do.
The truth is that most
mainstream business that post testimonials on their websites also link the
testimonial writer’s name to that person’s website, giving the
testimonial even greater credibility because we can actually contact the
person who wrote it.
Well, I’m not even
asking for that level of commitment. Let’s just get full names first.
Then, perhaps in the future, we can insist on some way to contact each
testimonial writer. I understand the need to take baby steps. So let’s
just do away with the initials only or first names with a last initial for
now and write the full name. Otherwise, why bother with testimonials at
all?
5)
Phony Costumes: While
this is not as prevalent as it once was, there are still many psychics and
divination readers (readers of tarot cards, crystals, tea leaves and
crystal balls) who dress themselves like Gypsies, despite the fact that
they have no ancestral roots or connection with the Roma/Romani people.
This might include silk dresses and multi-layered skirts in vibrant
colors, solid-colored square bandannas on the head (known as diklos),
large and dangling jewelry, and pieces of velvet or leather clothing worn
as accents. In my view, such costume wearing is misleading, the equivalent
of someone who is not a doctor wearing a white doctor’s smock to add
credibility (however false) in order to hand out medical advice.
When I was a private
investigator, I didn’t testify in court or interview a witness dressed
like Sherlock Holmes. Nor did I drive around in a red Ferrari like Magnum
P.I., although that might have been fun had I been able to afford one.
Once our business attire moves from being a uniform to serving no other
purpose than to act as a costume, professionals begin to lose credibility.
I once knew a salesman who knew nothing about auto mechanics, but wore an
auto mechanic’s uniform to sell auto repair discount booklets
door-to-door. In truth, he was misleading the public that he was a
mechanic in order to make a sale.
In a nutshell, Gypsy
costumes—or costumes of any sort—detract from a psychic’s or
medium’s credibility and image rather than uplift it. Unless they are
dressing in this manner because of their heritage or family tradition, it
feels deceptive to me. I’m all for dressing in line with the customs of
a learned practice, such as is common in the martial arts, but unless a
non-Gypsy psychic has apprenticed to learn the rituals, traditions and
ways of the Gypsy or Roma/Romanian people—and they haven’t merely
learned how to give tarot readings—it seems out of integrity to present
themselves as such simply in attempt to enhance their image or
credibility.
Conclusion
The time has come that we
hold this industry accountable and cease tolerating unfathomable practices
that we would never accept in any other business industry. Imagine
consulting a lawyer online who offered his first name only, presented
himself with no more than a photograph of the scales of justice, and asked
for your credit card in order to charge you by the minute with no agreed
upon time limitation. Most people would never be so naïve as to consult
with such a lawyer. Yet numerous online psychics who follow these shoddy
practices—many charging more than some lawyers—are giving readings to
thousands of willing clients daily.
Although I know psychics
and mediums will read this (and will hopefully be inspired by it), I am
not writing this piece for their eyes, as I will address them more
directly in other venues. Instead, I am writing to you, someone who might
purchase readings from psychics and mediums, because it is you who holds
the power to change this industry even more than the psychics and mediums
themselves.
If we, the public, begin
making responsible choices by not accepting the business practices
outlined above, the psychic and medium industry will have to change. This
means that we must stop purchasing readings from the category of psychics
and mediums who commonly violate the 5 items listed above, which by basic
economic principles alone will precipitate this necessary transformation.
Most importantly, any legitimately gifted psychic or medium who is serious
about their work will follow these public demands for more professional
business practices; and this, in turn, will change the face of an industry
that, in its best light, truly and effectively helps people in times of
adversity, confusion and grief.
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For more
articles by Bob Olson, visit www.ofspirit.com/bobolson.htm
BOB OLSON is a former
skeptic and private investigator who has researched evidence of life after
death since 1999. He now shares his spiritual insights, extraordinary
experiences and the gifted practitioners he has met along his journey to
assist others with their own spiritual growth. Bob is the editor of OfSpirit.com
Magazine, GriefAndBelief.com, BestPsychicMediums.com,
& BestPsychicDirectory.com. He is the author of Win The
Battle and How To Beat Depression, plus has written Forewords
for three books: The Complete Idiot's Guide To Communicating With
Spirits, Consult Your Inner Psychic and The Complete Idiot's
Guide To Divining The Future. Bob has also been quoted as an expert in
How To Get A Good Reading By A Psychic Medium and Empowering
Your Life With Angels. To read Bob's latest blog entry, visit www.ofspirit.com/editorsblog.htm