A Lesson In
Communication Discovered In The New Year
by Bob Olson, OfSpirit.com editor
I don't know about you, but New Year's
resolutions just make me feel bad. It's like setting myself up for
failure. If I was really disciplined enough to exercise everyday and cut
down on my coffee intake, wouldn't I be doing it already? I've come to the
conclusion that it's the health clubs and diet pill companies that started
this whole resolution thing in the first place. It certainly wasn't the
cigarette and alcohol companies.
But since it's traditional to make a
resolution, I'm going to make an effort to communicate better. I thought I
was a pretty good listener, but I've recently learned that listening is
only half the battle. Communication is also about paying attention to our
My wife, Melissa, and I recently purchased
a new slipcover for our loveseat. While picking out the new slipcover,
Melissa asked me what style I preferred. I told her I like the kind that
isn't fitted to the cushions because I'm tired of tucking the slipcover
around each cushion every time I walk by the loveseat. Melissa looked at
me kind of cross-eyed.
"What are you talking about,
Bob?" she responded. "The slipcover we have now isn't
fitted. For three years I've been untucking the slipcover every
time I walk by the loveseat!
Of course, the whole thing
was my fault since the slipcover wasn't supposed to be tucked-in in the
first place. But I learned a valuable lesson in communication. Now I'm
wondering if the shower curtain is supposed to be on the inside or the
outside of the tub. Is it possible that we've both been watering
the plants? That might explain why they're dying. And how about the door
to the guest room? Maybe it isn't closing by itself after all. Could it be
she doesn't want the cats in there?
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